a lot of ND's are sharing their thoughts on the j situation from before and i may not be good at words when it comes to my feelings, but i will try to Articulate it as much as i can.

i wasn't here when the j situation happened. the moment i woke up, it was already the aftermath.

all his tweets in regards to the situation has been long since deleted and a few minutes later after i woke up, j is posting an apology. i had to ask my friends who were awake during the time to explain to me what's going on and upon reading the original tweets: i honestly did-

not see the problem with it at first. if anything, i was hyperfocusing on the fact j admitted to having adhd and it made me extremely happy to know one of the people i stan experiences something i do as well.

but then as soon as i started reading people's thoughts on it more,-

mostly from neurotypicals, i was able to realize more what possible negative implication his words had on neurodivergent people.

once i understood it more, i got upset and felt a bit disappointed. but that doesn't come near to how much anxiety and pressure i felt from people-

making posts about unfollowing j or unstanning day6 or maybe even seeing them only as an ot4 instead. so many people on here made me feel like i was a bad person for still possibly wanting to continue supporting day6 as a whole, including j. i felt like i needed to share the-

same opinions with those who were furious at j or else i'd be labelled as a shitty person.

to clarify, i'm not saying that what j did wasn't bad, because i know it is after reading other posts about it. but what i'm saying is that i felt pressured into cancelling someone-

instead of going about the situation in a much calmer way. stan twit is so quick on cancel culture that a lot of neurodivergent people feel compelled to follow suit unless they want to be bombarded with hate. we constantly feel like we have to make our opinions match everyone-

else's because we don't want to face negative and aggressive reactions from those who shut down other for not having the same opinion.

it's like i was being told to press the undo button on stanning day6. when it comes to my adhd and my hyperfixations, the undo button is stuck-

until further notice. i can't press it no matter how much people tell me to because these are the things my brain decided to hyperfixate on. it's latched onto it. even if you tell me that it's easy to unlatch myself from it, i literally cannot do that. it's impossible. when you-

hyperfixate on something, it's like your brain is unconsciously sticks you to this one thing and you cannot, for the life of you, consciously unstuck yourself from it. like i can't mentally pull myself away no matter what and i need people to understand that.

cancel culture-

surely does not work. and neither does hate. both of these things are a toxic way to deal with someone making a mistake; ESPECIALLY someone with adhd like j.

when you have adhd, you think way too fast, way too slow, or not at all.

the way some neurotypicals handled the-

situation so aggressively was really upsetting and i really hope this serves as a lesson for all of you that you can go about something through the means of a calm conversation involving some education on the matter.

all of you were quick to jump into an issue that has NOTHING-

to do with you.

again, i'm not saying what j did or said wasn't bad. it was and he still needed to apologize. i don't want you people reading these experiences that neurodivergent people had and go like: OH! so technically j didn't do anything wrong since these people didn't-

see that at first!

no, that isn't it. j still invalidated other neurodivergent people as far as i know.

what i'm saying is that most neurotypicals could have handled the situation so much better instead of jumping the gun and going right away to thinking about cancelling-

and unstanning when this is something about a human issue rather than an issue about stan culture.

this got long and i don't even know if i'm making sense but i just want to say that educating someone is better than leaving them alone and letting them continue to be awful.