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I chose to be gay and so did you. Don& #39;t think so? Who forced you? Nature?
There may be some way in which being attracted to certain things is not a choice, but attraction is massively complicated and can& #39;t be simplified to one cause. Attraction is part of being gay, but not the same.
The lack of choice in sexual orientation is a certain sort of political rhetoric, and if it was ever useful it has now outlived its usefulness.
Being gay is something you choose to be, but this doesn& #39;t mean you don& #39;t have good reason for the choice, just that not everybody has the same one(s).
When I was little I was attracted to men, but I didn& #39;t even hear about the concept of being gay for years, I could not have been gay until then and even after that I was not gay for years and years, though I felt a twinge of relief mixed with fear when I learned of the concept.
One thing being gay is is a way to organize your understanding of yourself in relation to society. A vague feeling of being entirely out of place is replaced with an understanding of where you stand in relation to everything else, even if in many ways it& #39;s not enviable.
No wonder choosing to be gay can feel like no choice at all! But you could as easily choose a different way of understanding your relationship to society if one was available to you.
This sort of understanding is not arbitrary, it takes work and time and it requires a community. It helps people live their lives and advocate for their rights. It& #39;s wonderful! It is just a tether to society though, and equally important is that original vague displacement.
