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The Power of Forgiveness in your relationship.
"Saying sorry and forgiving each other are vital because we will all hurt our partner.
Unresolved hurt will undermine the trust and openness between us and destroy our intimacy."
"Saying sorry and forgiving each other are vital because we will all hurt our partner.
Unresolved hurt will undermine the trust and openness between us and destroy our intimacy."
Behavioural symptoms of buried anger or hurt.
- Inability to relax
- Low sexual desire
- Quick temper/intolerance
- Distracting, avoidant or numbing habits
- Escaping into work/children/other activities
- Inability to relax
- Low sexual desire
- Quick temper/intolerance
- Distracting, avoidant or numbing habits
- Escaping into work/children/other activities
Physical symptoms of buried anger or hurt.
- Disturbed sleep
- Appetite affected
- Medical conditions eg: ulcers, high blood pressure, pain
- Disturbed sleep
- Appetite affected
- Medical conditions eg: ulcers, high blood pressure, pain
Emotional symptoms of buried anger or hurt.
- Loss of positive emotions such as romance, love, joy
- Low self-esteem / depression
shut down
- Fear of confrontation
- Loss of positive emotions such as romance, love, joy
- Low self-esteem / depression
shut down
- Fear of confrontation
Process for healing hurt 1/3
Talk about the hurt
Whether you have hurt your partner or have been hurt by them, take the initiative to bring it out into the open so things can be healed. An accumulation of small hurts, if left unaddressed, can lead to a loss of intimacy.
Talk about the hurt
Whether you have hurt your partner or have been hurt by them, take the initiative to bring it out into the open so things can be healed. An accumulation of small hurts, if left unaddressed, can lead to a loss of intimacy.
Process of healing hurt 2/3
Say sorry
Take responsibility -- resist the urge to make excuses or to blame your partner.
Say sorry
Take responsibility -- resist the urge to make excuses or to blame your partner.
Process of healing hurt 3/3
Forgive
Forgiveness is essential and one of the greatest forces for healing in a relationship.
Forgive
Forgiveness is essential and one of the greatest forces for healing in a relationship.
Forgiveness is, first and foremost, a choice, not a feeling:
Forgiveness always costs us something. The question is not, ‘Do we feel like forgiving?’ but, ‘Will we forgive?
Will we let go of our self-pity/demand for justice/desire to retaliate?’
Forgiveness always costs us something. The question is not, ‘Do we feel like forgiving?’ but, ‘Will we forgive?
Will we let go of our self-pity/demand for justice/desire to retaliate?’
Forgiveness IS NOT:
- Pretending that the hurt doesn’t matter and trying to forget about it
- Denying the hurt (and just hoping it will go away)
- Thinking, ‘Our love for each other will somehow magically resolve anyways we hurt each other so it doesn’t matter’
- Pretending that the hurt doesn’t matter and trying to forget about it
- Denying the hurt (and just hoping it will go away)
- Thinking, ‘Our love for each other will somehow magically resolve anyways we hurt each other so it doesn’t matter’
Forgiveness IS:
- Facing the wrong done to us
- Recognising the emotions inside
- Choosing not to hold it against our partner
- Facing the wrong done to us
- Recognising the emotions inside
- Choosing not to hold it against our partner
Forgiveness is a process -- we often need to keep forgiving for the same hurt, sometimes on a daily basis.
The topic of forgiveness has been coming a lot lately but it just goes to show how important it really is for our relationship.
Keep growing, healing & moving forward.
You got this.
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Keep growing, healing & moving forward.
You got this.
The content and ideas in this thread is from
@MarriageCourses
