I think there is a serious generational divide in LGBTQ communities, and I think that a lot of it stems from the defensive nature of our cultures.

We had to define ourselves by what we are, and consequently what we are -not-.

I know a lot of gay men that are afraid of vaginas.

"Male only" spaces were a way, for example, for gay men to congregate without interruption.

Society dictated that that was necessary at the time. I think a lot of gay men have internalized that paradigm instead of rejecting it in part because it& #39;s easier.

However I believe that this has lead to a series of ideological presumptions regarding the immutability of bodies which necessarily rejects the stated goal of gender and sexuality freedom.

They have escaped a box to construct another one.

Gay men who won& #39;t even consider sex with a trans-man because of his vagina are weak. They are the "you& #39;ll get more conservative as you get older"s of the Gay community.

I say the same about penisphobic lesbians.

Barring trauma (which you should work through instead of unhealthily avoiding), there& #39;s no reason for you to be afraid or unsettled by a set of genitals. I find that so weird and counterproductive. All of our bodies are different, it& #39;s just one piece.