To assert that "sexual preference" is an offensive term is to assert that we are incapable of sexual discretion, incapable of making informed decisions about our sexual behavior. But we are not slaves to our desires. We are not mere animals. We are not braying llamas in heat. https://twitter.com/SteveKrak/status/1316223349719216128

We are human beings, each of us possessing a will and capable of deciding (under normal circumstances) how we use our bodies in a sexual manner. Why then is the term now considered offensive?

I think there are two reasons. 1. In order to amass more righteousness, the woke mob needs to amass more righteous anger, which means the woke mob needs to declare formerly unoffensive terms as "offensive" and then get angry at people for using them.

2. "Sexual preference" language was used to temper people's natural aversion to homosexual acts by speaking of them as though they were essentially the same thing as natural acts. "Some guys like girls. Some guys like guys. No biggie."

However, LGBT advocates have also inserted "born this way" language into the debate, because they recognized that people would stop opposing gay marriage, trans identity, etc... if you convinced them that LGBT folks couldn't help the way they were.

And philosophically speaking, "sexual preference" and "born this way" are enemies because preferences can be resisted and can change, two non-negotiables for the "born this way" camp.

How did this happen? Well, despite all its success, the LGBT movement isn't driven by philosophy. It's driven by a guilty conscience. Likewise, its goal is not to achieve certain legal protections but to silence those whose words grate at their consciences.

On account of that, the LGBT movement uses whichever philosophy will work in the moment, often using both of them at once for good measure. That's why you get this maddening inconsistency.

"You can't pick who you're attracted to but you can pick your pronouns." "People are born gay but they can change their gender numerous times a week."

"It's wrong to shame gay men for being attracted to other men but gay men, you're a bigot if you won't sleep with this biological female who identifies as male."

Sexual orientation is immutable. Gender identity is fluid. It's wrong to encourage people to change their sexual orientation. It's liberating to encourage people to change their gender identity. You're born this way and are bound in your identity unless you're not.

You don't get a preference with regard to your sexual orientation (which will be the next phrase to be labeled offensive, btw). You get unlimited choices with regard to your identity, your kinks, your self-expression.

This is the insanity soup you get when you're driven by a bad conscience instead of a discerning mind. So let's take a step back and take inventory of those in the uneasy LGBT alliance.

Many Lesbians will flat out tell that you that they were not, in fact, born that way. That it was, in fact, a choice.

Gay men are perhaps more likely to claim "born this way." Buuuuuuuut....

Let's be honest and admit that grooming and sexual exploitation of younger males by older males is a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuge problem and that much of the "I was born this way" talk is a coping mechanism for those dealing with said sexual trauma.

Bisexuality is very frequently a phase, in particular from young women who want attention. There is also a ton of evidence, likewise, that transgenderism is a huge fad, at least in the younger ages.

Likewise, let's take a step back and look at the entire concept of sexual preference--which we all know 100% changes over the course of someone's life.

Let's say you're a dude. When you were 12 years old, you were attracted to 12 year old girls and were not attracted to 70 year old women. When you were 70, you were no longer attracted to 12 year old girls and were attracted to 70 year old women.

As you aged, your sense of who you were and how you related to other people caused your brain to rewire itself with regard to your sexual preference.

Likewise, remember Subway Jared the Pedophile? He surely didn't start off that way. Rather, he fried his brain on porn to such an extent that it wouldn't release the feel good chemicals until he watched something forbidden.

Which means that he eventually and inadvertently trained his brain to become attracted to underage children. Through prolonged exposure to sexual images, his sexual preference changed.

And as the example of Subway Jared shows, not all sexual preferences are created equal. Some are good and natural and make babies. Some are bad and physically destructive to the bodies of those who consensually take part in them. Some are evil and predatory.

So if we want to love people who identify as LGBT, you won't do it well by insisting that "sexual preference" is now offensive. Nor will you love them well by embracing the "born this way" narrative that they themselves well know might not be true.

No, the best way to love them is to point them to Jesus, to His forgiveness, His mercy, and His holiness--all of which will give them the strength to say "I am not who my sinful flesh says I am. I am who God says I am. I am not a slave to my desires. I am a child of God."