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for me being trans means i can& #39;t stop both-sideing-gender issues lol
it& #39;s also weird to think about like, how much does stuff apply to my past life?
i was in a situation vaguely like this and i had ZERO interest in sex with the girl and certainly did not feel & #39;entitlement& #39; to something i did not want https://twitter.com/ellegist/status/1315953283735916546?s=20">https://twitter.com/ellegist/...
i was in a situation vaguely like this and i had ZERO interest in sex with the girl and certainly did not feel & #39;entitlement& #39; to something i did not want https://twitter.com/ellegist/status/1315953283735916546?s=20">https://twitter.com/ellegist/...
so yeah i had this platonic crush on the girl who was kind of my best friend for a while and she didn& #39;t appreciate it and i did become kind of bitter over it after a while
it& #39;s kind of embarrassing to think back on, but it feels like i was mostly mislead by a culture that generally sort of implies that doing stuff for girls will get them to like you back.
she also wasn& #39;t clear enough in her refusal (but admittedly, i was clueless).
she also wasn& #39;t clear enough in her refusal (but admittedly, i was clueless).
(like there was this whole thing where another friend of her would tell me to back off and back then it felt like she was just jealous and i didn& #39;t believe her)
i think my problem with this & #39;Entitled To Sex& #39; thing is that it frames the discourse in an extremely unhelpful way that& #39;s mostly useful to complain about guys but only ever makes them feel bad or get angry at you for suggesting it
OTOH a lot of guys *do* hold toxic attitudes towards women and it can be absurdly difficult to get them to acknowledge this
