Sex and dating aren't the same thing.

If you form a deep emotional connection with a man, and then get a boyfriend who isn't him, you can't write off his anger as "wow he just wanted to fuck me the whole time, disgusting"

Men, especially young and emotionally handicapped men are gunna value THE FUCK out of an emotionally intimate relationship.

Men care way more about love, thats why time and time again men feel emotionally played by women.

The male-female relationship dynamic *is fucked* for everyone

Granted, its mostly men who get so indignant and wounded by rejection that they kill women for it. but directly comparing who has it worse is not what I'm trying to do by writing this out.

All I would like to do is provide the perspective that men tend to be secretive with their emotions.

They value them, but also feel ashamed to express them. Imo its way more likely that a man was confused you got a bf because NOW HE FEELS LIKE A FUCKING IDIOT FOR LOVING YOU

When something like this happens, the relationship is completely destabilized. The guys sense of self, the girl, love, emotions, and relationships are also destabilized.

And then he is too ashamed, confused, and awkward to continue the relationship with the girl. NOT ABOUT SEX!