One of the AHA moments I've had since getting divorced is that one can be married, living at home with a spouse and still be a single mother. I was that one.

A thread.

I'm doing everything for my baby now, just as I was doing everything before. But it's easier now. I have the last and only word. No one to argue with. I come up with a plan, and I execute the plan.

Marriage can be great. Marriage is supposed to be great. All things being equal, it can be one of the best decisions you'll ever make in your life - who to spend it with.

But sometimes, marriage can be an illusion where you're physically and legally with someone. But emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and financially (OMG, don't get me started on the financial part), you're actually alone. Alone AND carrying other people's wahala on your head.