i find that alot of young men these days are a bit lost and confused when it comes to masculinity, and what it means to be a man, with some shunning the concept altogether, and others utterly daunted by it. i do have an approach that might help some though.

simply put, define masculinity,what it means to be man, on your own terms. find all the aspects of masculinity, what you find masculine or manly, that appeal to you and work best for you, and strive towards them. live your life with pride, to an ideal that resonates with you.

rather than being ashamed of being a man, or feeling confused about what it means to be one, or feeling not good enough as a man, take a step back, see what masculine aspects suit your ideals best, and work to become more like those, and make yourself happy.

become a man that you can be proud of. you don't need to define yourself by every other man's standards, or society's standards. take masculinity, and make it your own. be your own man for you. no one else. if you live with pride in who you are, then no one can take it from you.

look within, take your time, find yourself, and work to be a man you can be proud to be. if you feel insecure or unsure as a man, you can look inside, reach out, whatever suits you, and find your ideal at your own pace, one that fits you best.

take heart, stand tall, and the rest will follow. you need not compete or compare, loathe or envy, towards any other man. simply define, shape, and express your masculinity and your manhood the way that resonates with you, and you will feel fulfilled inside.