One of the most frustrating aspects of gender ideology has little to do with bathrooms, or even how to define women, as important as that is, but the fact that it takes our energy away from fighting the sex industry, from fighting male violence, and from recognizing sisterhood.

Gender ideology is the most successful backlash to women's rights in modern times.
News outlets prioritize trans issues, which is to say they prioritize male violence against each other, and disappear the sex-based nature of violence against women and girls.

Women's pain has long been ignored or relegated to insignificance, and the claim that men are the most oppressed women displays the sort of magical thinking that separates believers in male authority from disbelievers. Believing in women's humanity is the sin against patriarchy.

It's implied that women's pain is at best, irrelevant, at worst, non-existent, but it's up for men to decide if, and how, the particular humiliation of being treated like a woman should be discussed, and what we are allowed to say about it in a way that won't challenge them.

Women who work to advance the rights of the female sex are shouted down, called bigots, forced to consider men before they speak.
Gender ideology sets up camp in our minds to place the feelings of men before our own, to self-censor, and it is male authoritarianism.

Certainly many women wish we could spend our time in a more productive way, arguing on equal ground to end male violence, and it's a tremendous waste of our energy to repeat the obvious to closed ears, even as laws are changed to favor men who reduce us to pornography.

I knew men were violent to women. It wasn't until they claimed to be us and told us to shut up, took away our boundaries on the basis of their "rights," that I fully recognized the extent of male entitlement. It's an ugly thing, devoid of pity, so I give none of mine in exchange.

We have to spend our time arguing that we exist while they claim our existence erases them, but the world goes on. The rapes go on. The violence goes on. It's a merciless vampirism from women's fight to free ourselves. It's cruel. The girls that could be saved are ignored.

Gender ideology itself is a cruelty. Individual feelings have, for uncounted years, been leveraged against women to justify our subordinate status. Genderism is the new form of patriarchy that preys on our sympathies while exploiting us.
Anger is justified. It's okay to be angry.

Pitiless are the men who claim to be us. Who get modelling and speaking gigs, who pose in Playboy, who tell us we don't have bodies, that our bodies are a fiction of their own imagining. That men conjured us, can tell us what we are, how to speak.
I give my heart to women.