A thread on the situation to @Jae_Day6 and my oomfs

As someone who has ADHD and anxiety, I want to apologise to anyone who was hurt by the situation. We may be neurodivergent, but that does NOT give us or anyone else the right to speak on behalf of someone else's experiences.

Assuming that you understand everyone's struggles just because you understand your own is ignorant. Neurodiversity is something that affects every single person DIFFERENTLY. Which is why everyone's perceptions or experiences are valid, no matter how different they may be.

Its ok to not understand how someone's disorder affects them. It takes time and openess to ever rly get it. But you can't be open if you assume you already know everything when you just don't.

It doesn't give you the right to speak on what does or doesn't affect somebody unless you are them. It doesn't give you the right to invalidate someone's feelings struggles just because you belong in the same minority. No matter how similar those struggles may seem to your own.

If you're reading this right now Jae, I want you to know that you're not a bad person. You just weren't educated. Unfortunately it's a common misconception with many people within a minority who believe that their struggles can be generalized for every single person within it.

But that's just not how it works. You may not have meant to cause any harm with what you did but there were still those who were hurt in the process. A neurodivergent person can still be ableist towards someone else and you need to recognise that you did that.

I really look up to you, as a lot of neurodivergent people do. Not only your music, but YOU, bring us a sense of comfort. Society constantly chastises us for not understanding social cues like sarcasm or jokes, and it makes us feel lacking, stupid and isolated when we just aren't

We turn towards idols like you for a safe haven away from how cruel and uncaring society can be. We look up to you because we felt that you cared and would accept us no matter what. So to see that you were willing to invalidate us and turn us away like how we always are hurts.

To everyone who was affected, you are sososo valid. All of your indivisual experiences + struggles are YOUR OWN and them being different does not make them any less valid! I'm so proud of you. Not everyone will understand but it doesn't mean that you are alone. I stand with you.

I know everyone must be having mixed feelings right now. To jae fans who feel the need to detatch themselves from him, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I don't think jae meant to hurt anyone, but that being said, if he hurt you then that matters and it is not okay.

Everyone please take your time to heal. You don't ever have to justify your feelings to anyone. Do what you have to do. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here, and know that I'll support you no matter what. I love you all so much. Please stay safe and stay hydrated

Update: I just saw that jae apologised and althought that was the right move, I'm leaving this thread up for anyone who thought that the apology was "unnessecary." Thank you jae for doing that. And remember that unless you are neurodivergent, this isn't your apology to accept!