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I have feelings about Coming Out Day, as someone who was read as a bisexual woman before revealing my True Form.
(1) The day before I came out as enby I was getting mean Tweets telling me I should stop mentioning queer issues since I "didn& #39;t belong to the community." I was out.
(1) The day before I came out as enby I was getting mean Tweets telling me I should stop mentioning queer issues since I "didn& #39;t belong to the community." I was out.
(2) You could argue that this was because I "passed as straight." But I still do. I wear clothes from the guys& #39; section, I bind, I& #39;m on a bit of T, but I have an ass and I& #39;m normally seen next to a cis man and a small child. People just assume I& #39;m a cis woman who& #39;s weird-looking.
(3) Yet now, I don& #39;t tend to have my credentials checked by queer people quite so much. I got a lot of welcoming messages -- and I loved them! Everyone should welcome me! -- on the second coming-out, and almost none at all on the first.
(4) I grant you: I, myself, am more comfortable with the label that fits better. When I mentioned being bi before, it was uncomfortably, awkwardly, with the sense that this wasn& #39;t all the way true but as close as I could get. I& #39;m now in my all-rainbows-all-pride-everything era.
(5) But the sense of having to constantly come out, over and over, constantly being assumed to be a faker or a cheater or a tourist, constantly assumed to be one kind of coward or another... that was all worse as a "bi woman." People genuinely treat those girls like shit.
(6) So if somebody comes out as a kind of queer you think is "not queer enough," if your first impulse is to ask for their resume, if you want to shrug off someone& #39;s disclosure as small: Be nice anyway. It may be a big deal to them, and it may sometimes be part of a larger story.
