I haven’t spoken out about this sooner because I don’t want those who do this to feel like I’m throwing shade and I don’t want people to feel like I’m unapproachable or unfriendly. However, this has been a continual thing that impacts me so I would like to say this publicly.

People on social media have a strange sense of entitlement to your time and attention, to the point where they’ll be offended and/or assume attributes of your character if you don’t respond to their replies or messages - or don’t do so in the timing that they’d like.

Just because someone doesn’t respond doesn’t mean they’re “acting Hollywood” or think they’re better than. Just because someone doesn’t get back with you quickly doesn’t mean they’re ignoring you. No one is obligated to get back to you in your timeframe or at all for that matter.

Tbh, I do not always feel like responding to people, be it an exchange on the TL or a full blown conversation in DMs. I don’t even really text my actual real life friends like that throughout the day. Many days I just don’t have the social battery for it and/or am busy.

I’m not referring to light comments/messages like, “I like your shoes.”

People will message heavy questions or reach out about stuff that I just don’t have the mental and emotional capacity for at the time and be offended when I don’t respond right away.

Give me a second.

Jesus doesn’t even always respond to prayers right away.

Give me time. I will get back to you.

Sometimes what I’m sent requires a little extra time for me to think/pray about before responding. Other times, I may be messaged at a time that I am trying to work through my own stuff. Come on, y’all. You aren’t the only one dealing with things. Show grace to the encourager.

I legit be dealing with my own mental and emotional stuff plus my clients problems as well as things family and friends confide in me. I come to social media to just chill. I don’t mind helping people, I truly don’t mind. But I have to set boundaries because I will burn out.