Years ago, when I was in the height of trauma, a guy I dated taught me about acceptance and how to use it to control stress and anxiety, and I'm not kidding, learning that saved me from a nervous breakdown.
Here's how it works. Think about the thing that is stressing you and ask yourself what you can control about it? If there are things you can control, do so, if not you stick that thing in the fuck it bucket and move on. Simple as that.
Your stress is not going to make that uncontrollable something that you can magically fix, so do not waste time and energy on it. Now there are things that you can change and control, and some of those will take huge courage and work. But there's wisdom in knowing which is which
Also, there's no harm in trying to fix things, realising it's immovable and giving up. So long as you know when to do that, in a way that does not stress you, then do it.
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