My next door neighbor was just murdered by her ex husband yesterday and I saw her body being carried out.

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People knew. “I always knew there was something off with him and he did crazy stuff all the time”.

But people become accustomed to erratic & abusive behavior. It becomes their normal. And trying to get victims to leave becomes tiresome and can be triggering so I understand.

Now the neighbors who tried to save her life will forever remember their failed attempts. Her young daughter had to witness it.

It’s normal to wonder if you could have done more. After going through the cycle of blame and trying to wrap my head around what I witnessed, I keep concluding that everyone accepted the DV because the victim did. People on the outside feel just as powerless.

These situations are so trash on so many levels. And law involvement often doesn’t help until it reaches a point such as this. Idk. I’m irritated that I didn’t know as much as others who knew her longer, but then I come to the same conclusion as above.

The conclusion of acceptance by association. Then I think don’t give up on them. Then I think of the people who help DV victims who then themselves are killed by association or “taking something away” from the abusers since they often feel they are property.

It’s an endless gross mindfuck and I hope none of you guys have to experience it.

RIP to a truly wonderful and innocently sweet woman who was nothing but gentle and kind.