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Let me tell you a story about #SelfLoathing, #GayRacism, #SexualRacism, and what #Asians deal with.
This is for everyone, y& #39;all.
You might learn a little something about your own race biases and preferences from this.
Come join us #gaysian #gaysians for a fireside chat.
1/16
This is for everyone, y& #39;all.
You might learn a little something about your own race biases and preferences from this.
Come join us #gaysian #gaysians for a fireside chat.
1/16
I was born in Idaho and grew up in Colorado, two places where I could count on one hand the number of Asians (and part-Asians) in my community and my school.
#Asians are used to living in a world where we& #39;re invisible. We aren& #39;t represented in LGBTQ+ or mainstream media.
2/16
#Asians are used to living in a world where we& #39;re invisible. We aren& #39;t represented in LGBTQ+ or mainstream media.
2/16
We #EastAsians suffer from unique issues: the #ModelMinority myth, perpetual foreignness, sexual stereotypes, and #YellowPeril xenophobia.
When I realized I was gay as a teen, I became suicidally depressed and prayed to God:
"Make me straight or make me white. Pick one."
3/16
When I realized I was gay as a teen, I became suicidally depressed and prayed to God:
"Make me straight or make me white. Pick one."
3/16
When I got to uni and could explore my kinkiness in peace, the constant rejection and dehumanization was painful.
Many of us #gaysians still deal with trauma from our first encounters.
But spending time in more Asian spaces in general on the East Coast, I had an epiphany.
4/16
Many of us #gaysians still deal with trauma from our first encounters.
But spending time in more Asian spaces in general on the East Coast, I had an epiphany.
4/16
Know what I realized? I too had a dislike for other #gaysians.
Anti-Asianness had been so ingrained in me since birth that I didn& #39;t realize my own #InternalizedRacism against my own people.
Solely because I didn& #39;t see us anywhere in mainstream, #LGBTQ+, or #kink media.
5/16
Anti-Asianness had been so ingrained in me since birth that I didn& #39;t realize my own #InternalizedRacism against my own people.
Solely because I didn& #39;t see us anywhere in mainstream, #LGBTQ+, or #kink media.
5/16
Let that sink in for a sec: My dislike for Asians was because I didn& #39;t see us anywhere.
I never saw two Asians in loving gay relationships.
I never saw Asians being intimate in porn or kink.
I never saw Asians in gay media or advertising.
I never saw Asians on stages.
6/16
I never saw two Asians in loving gay relationships.
I never saw Asians being intimate in porn or kink.
I never saw Asians in gay media or advertising.
I never saw Asians on stages.
6/16
You see, it& #39;s #SystemicRacism that warped my perceptions of Asians and made them unhealthy and not healthy.
Systemic racism made me depressed and hate myself.
I only saw white gays in relationships, porn, and media, so I assumed only they could have happy kinky gay lives.
7/16
Systemic racism made me depressed and hate myself.
I only saw white gays in relationships, porn, and media, so I assumed only they could have happy kinky gay lives.
7/16
The white-only representation in porn, media, and LGBTQ+ and kink spaces—and the white supremacy inherent to that—showed that I wasn& #39;t the one with the preference.
It was in fact my entire world, my entire context that had the preference and thus shaped my own preferences.
8/16
It was in fact my entire world, my entire context that had the preference and thus shaped my own preferences.
8/16
Chances are you probably have some kind of loathing or self-loathing in you, whether that means you don& #39;t date Asians or you deal with your own self-love issues.
Remember: You hate Asians and you hate yourself because of systemic racism and white supremacist structures.
9/16
Remember: You hate Asians and you hate yourself because of systemic racism and white supremacist structures.
9/16
So here& #39;s a message to all you non-Asians out there:
You say you& #39;re #antiracist? Deal with your own #racism first kween.
Because we #gaysians are beautiful and we know it. In fact, our struggles with racism and dehumanization in the #gay world have only made us stronger.
10/16
You say you& #39;re #antiracist? Deal with your own #racism first kween.
Because we #gaysians are beautiful and we know it. In fact, our struggles with racism and dehumanization in the #gay world have only made us stronger.
10/16
Today, I no longer hate Asians. I find us just as sexy.
Today, I& #39;d go down on Daniel Dae Kim, Bretman Rock, and Salman Khan in a heartbeat. Preferably all three at the same time please, in #latex.
And my only race preference today? Well, you better be f*cking antiracist!
11/16
Today, I& #39;d go down on Daniel Dae Kim, Bretman Rock, and Salman Khan in a heartbeat. Preferably all three at the same time please, in #latex.
And my only race preference today? Well, you better be f*cking antiracist!
11/16
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Amplify our voices.
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Stop othering and exoticizing us.
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Listen to us when we tell you, yes, it really is that bad on the apps: @Grindr @scruffapp @ReconNews @Adam4Adam @Tinder.
No, we aren& #39;t making it up and we& #39;d really like it if you stopped #gaslighting us.
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No, we aren& #39;t making it up and we& #39;d really like it if you stopped #gaslighting us.
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And remember: Racists ain& #39;t worth your time.
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Y& #39;all who are just liking and not retweeting this out of fear of alienating your thirsty followers really need to think:
You really care that much about your racist followers?
You really care that much about your racist followers?
