I’ve now mentally graded “You just need to work on time management...” as a lazy thing to say, along with “You’re just sensitive” and “how can I help?”

It’s amazing how many things people say to you that are lazy and lack any consideration. I try to catch myself. https://twitter.com/howtoadhd/status/1313922754874281986

Throughout your week, whenever you’re presented with advice/help and don’t feel satisfaction from it, ask yourself, “Is it because the advice was lazy? And didn’t even factor in my present situation or challenges when given?”

Helps a lot with compassion for yourself and others.

The thing about lazy advice is that it can be dismissive. A way to offer seemingly good but extremely vague info that you can’t actually do anything with. And it’s used because the speaker is trying to get a quick win of “I’ve helped someone!” without the work that goes into it.

I already know someone will be tripped up by the word “lazy” and get offended. But that’s how humans are wired. At a certain point, your brain tries to reuse info you have in new situations. Or it may be a case of the ego not being comfortable with being unhelpful, so it kicks in

It isn’t personal, and so many of us do it that there’s no need to sit and stew about it or call people out. You as the person needing something can always figure out better ways to communicate. And if you’re convicted by this thread, you can work on being less lazy with answers.