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A lot of people have been defending me these last few days, and I really appreciate the support, but I noticed that some of you don't understand why people are calling the thigh contest "male chauvinism", and say that I did nothing wrong, so I want to explain the issue.
The first point that is often brought up is how it was voluntary and consensual.
That is true, but the criticism is not that the participants themselves were hurt, but that organizing such a contest where people compare other people's bodies and rate them, is objectifying.
That is true, but the criticism is not that the participants themselves were hurt, but that organizing such a contest where people compare other people's bodies and rate them, is objectifying.
It hurts society as a whole, especially women, by reinforcing this mentality.
Even the assumption that the participants themselves were not hurt is not necessarily correct, the participants themselves could have joined for all kinds of reasons, including a need for validation or
Even the assumption that the participants themselves were not hurt is not necessarily correct, the participants themselves could have joined for all kinds of reasons, including a need for validation or
parasocial relationships. Exposing potentially vulnerable people to be publicly objectified on a big platform was at the very least irresponsible.
The last thing I've heard was that it can't be male chauvinism because a lot of the participants were not women.
The last thing I've heard was that it can't be male chauvinism because a lot of the participants were not women.
That's also correct, but in our society, it is women's body which are the most sexualized and objectified. Thighs in particular, are sexualized for women, not for men. That's why most of the participants presented as feminine in their pictures. It objectifies feminine bodies.
I'm aware of these issues, they didn't cross my mind when I made the post because I was stuck in a completely different mindset/perspective, not thinking of this contest as anything sexual or to be taken seriously, but we are a a public forum. People won't share my perspective.
If anything this post was very naive, but I'm an adult with a large platform and I should put more thoughts into my posts, there were many red flags I should have seen coming and what happened happened no matter my intentions.
I hoped it helped some of you understand why I did deserve criticism for this post.
That said, I also want to add a little message for the people who criticized me.i
That said, I also want to add a little message for the people who criticized me.i
It is much easier to self crit and apologize correctly when people DM you about the issue, explaining what you did wrong or asking for clarification, than when you have to panick-defend yourself against rumors and false allegations of pedophilia.
If a tweet seems "sus" just ask.
If a tweet seems "sus" just ask.
You don't need to start publicly dunking on the people you want to criticize as soon as you find anything to speculate on and start wild accusations. That's how you get followers, not how you get someone to change. I know we're on twitter but still.
Oh and to the people who defended me again, please don't harass people either, it's not productive. I'm not referencing anything in particular but I've heard that some of you were toxic.
Thanks for reading all this, if there is anything I forgot in this thread please let me know
Thanks for reading all this, if there is anything I forgot in this thread please let me know
