s/o to the friends i had who, after two people dated at 15/16 turned out to be dicks, p much just decided that everyone i dated was gonna be a dick, to the point where they made comments like "wonder when this one will break your heart" before the relationship even started https://twitter.com/Hannahcami_lamb/status/1313213442166272001">https://twitter.com/Hannahcam...

there is a lot more to this bc so many comments were made etc, but the point is - these attitudes from & #39;friends& #39; meant that when i was in an extremely abusive relationship, i did not talk to anyone about it for fear they would just be like "i told you so" rather than supportive

and has also meant that i am afraid to talk to new friends about just ? normal relationship issues? for fear they are going to immediately accuse the person im dating of abuse or w/e

this is a mindset i have only just gotten out of (mainly thanks to @J_bhard &my home pals dealing w my shit all the time lol) but point is, if they hadnt have had that kind of attitude, i would have been more able to ask for help when i was in a bad situation

not sure i have worded this thread in the right way lol, but point is just, let your friends talk to you, abuse can be a difficult situation to leave, there is absolutely no need to make it more difficult for them