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~ Caring vs Listening ~
When Gilbert has doubts about being a doctor, he confides in Anne and Winifred. Their answers are very different.
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When Gilbert has doubts about being a doctor, he confides in Anne and Winifred. Their answers are very different.
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Anne's reaction is emotional. She *cares* about him & his dreams. She is not the type to give up before a difficulty. She is a dreamer, a fighter, and she tells Gilbert to face the truth and embrace it, because wanting to be a doctor is a part of who he is.
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"I don't think I can be a doctor. Doctors are supposed to... I was... I had to tell her, but I... [...] Mary needed me to be strong. I just made it worse. I couldn't find the words and I made it worse."
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!["I don't think I can be a doctor. Doctors are supposed to... I was... I had to tell her, but I... [...] Mary needed me to be strong. I just made it worse. I couldn't find the words and I made it worse." #renewannewithane](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EjtZ9nqXkAEzcEJ.jpg "\"I don't think I can be a doctor. Doctors are supposed to... I was... I had to tell her, but I... [...] Mary needed me to be strong. I just made it worse. I couldn't find the words and I made it worse.\" #renewannewithane")
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"Would she have been consoled by some dispassionate delivery ? I hope you never have to do something like that again, but I don't think you'll be able to avoid it.
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People will come to you Gilbert. And they will bring their children, and everyone they hold dear, to see a doctor who *cares* just as much as they do. You will be a wonderful doctor. Caring deeply will always be the right thing."
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Winifred answer is cold and rational. She is a good friend, so she *listens* and sympathizes, but she doesn't support his dream. She doesn't understand that being a doctor comes from his history, it IS him. She doesn't really *care*.
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-"It was a great experience. And I... I learned a lot. But it's made me unsure about pursuing medicine.
- Why so ?
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- Why so ?
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It seems to me that.. doctors are essentially.. powerless. All they really do is react to illness. I want to help people, not stand by while they die. Medicine couldn't save my mother, my father.. and now I've lost Mary, who was.. like a sister to me. It just.. seems pointless.
- I'm so sorry, Gilbert. I can't imagine how difficult it all must be.
(he is surprised by her answer... it's like he's thinking, "oh, so that's it, I should really give up my dream?")
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(he is surprised by her answer... it's like he's thinking, "oh, so that's it, I should really give up my dream?")
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"But I know for certain that, whatever you choose to focus your passion on *next*, the world will be better for it."
(see the look of disappointment on his face, this is not the reaction he was expecting... is he maybe comparing it to Anne's reaction?)
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(see the look of disappointment on his face, this is not the reaction he was expecting... is he maybe comparing it to Anne's reaction?)
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- Thanks, for... *listening*. For your friendship. It's been really nice."
Winifred listens, but she doesn't understand what it really means to him. She doesn't really care.
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Winifred listens, but she doesn't understand what it really means to him. She doesn't really care.
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