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"Once I provide the money for food and provide essentials in this home, you have no right to question my actions."
Let's talk about relationship contracts
Let's talk about relationship contracts
So what's happening here?
Well, it's obvious that one person is trying to change the contract that was consciously or unconsciously agreed to in the relationship.
An agreement where one person only has a financial obligation to their partner with no
Moral obligations.
Well, it's obvious that one person is trying to change the contract that was consciously or unconsciously agreed to in the relationship.
An agreement where one person only has a financial obligation to their partner with no
Moral obligations.
Whether you like to admit it or not, your relationships run on agreements, terms and conditions.
These terms are implicit, ie not spoken but your relationship works on it.
Or explicit, meaning that you both had discussions about the terms.
These terms are implicit, ie not spoken but your relationship works on it.
Or explicit, meaning that you both had discussions about the terms.
I've noticed that a lot of people only have implicit contracts.
And the problem with this is that you cant read each other's minds.
It's how people get married and one partner thinks they're going to move to a new city and another says that wasnt the agreement.
And the problem with this is that you cant read each other's minds.
It's how people get married and one partner thinks they're going to move to a new city and another says that wasnt the agreement.
This is why you hear me emphasize the importance of consciously choosing relationships and discussing the things that matter you.
DO NOT ASSUME THAT YOU ARE ON THE SAME PAGE.
Because they hear you talk about relocation plans doesnt mean they've agreed to it.
DO NOT ASSUME THAT YOU ARE ON THE SAME PAGE.
Because they hear you talk about relocation plans doesnt mean they've agreed to it.
Because they earn more than you doesn't mean they're are ready to take up more financial responsibility.
Because you've are now official doesn't mean theyve agreed to exclusivity.
Because you've are now official doesn't mean theyve agreed to exclusivity.
Its important that you are conscious of the fact that no matter how in love you appear to be and how reasonable you both seem to be, you still have to make a lot of your agreements&expectations explicit.
And to have plans and guidelines on how to communicate when things change.
And to have plans and guidelines on how to communicate when things change.
Talk about your values, the things that matter to you, your boundaries and what boundaries apply now in the relationship, how you'll address boundary violations, your fears and your expectations.
Even if you havent done this before, start putting them in place slowly.
Even if you havent done this before, start putting them in place slowly.
Learning how to communicate well also helps you distill your thoughts. You can check the link in my bio to get my book on communication titled, "How can I communicate better?" to get you started.
This is 2020, it's too late for your relationships to be running on just vibes.
This is 2020, it's too late for your relationships to be running on just vibes.
