I remember seeing a tweet on the TL about the reaction to somebody telling you they are in grief and I'll be giving my thoughts that nobody asked for here in this thread:

Well for starters... You might feel sad that you can't really help them for their pain, but don't worry it's not your fault... The pain of grief can't be cured by anything and anyone at all, the only way to make it better (at least how I do it) is try to live with it, (cont.)

doing what I like, talk with friends, etc..... (I might add to this thread? maybe?)