It is my personal belief that we can never end domestic violence if the culture of beating kids remains.

You beat your daughter as a dad at age 6 & after you tell her you did it cause you "love" her.
Twenty years down the line, and then you wonder why she is staying back.

The first example of a man in her life beat her and told her he loved her afterwards.
Even if in theory she does not agree with that, in practice, your actions as a father have set an instruction to her.

That she is to make excuses for people like you where beating is concerned.

That's why each day I sincerely ask myself why there is so much hype about children needing a "father figure" or a "mother figure".

What is the point of society insisting that having parents of opposite sexes is the ideal if not for them to reinforce gendered ideals?

You don't need a "mother" or "father" figure cause there's nothing a father would teach you that you cannot learn from one parent.

What children need are responsible parents who would teach them helpful values like respect and kindness towards others.

Cause most fathers in particular do not acc do anything.
Well acc they do.

In the lives of their daughters esp, thru their actions, they teach that men's violence is to be tolerated.
And thru watching how they treat their mothers, daughters learn to expect pain romantically.