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Having had a 15 year old who ran away and accused us of 'emotional abuse' simply because she was asked to get out of bed and empty the dishwasher... well... let's just say I don't automatically believe teenagers the way I used to. Especially ones with TDS.
Also, having been disowned by my daughter because I think women don't have penises & (ironically) didn't like Harry Potter, it concerns me that people are propping up children who are clearly not doing okay. Obviously it's complicated, but this generation are clearly not okay.
I know it looks like we are the bad guys because both of our daughter went of the deep-end. It's complicated, with blended family etc. Not being glib about it nor saying I didn't make mistakes. But I am saying... the girls are really not okay. I hope Claudia is okay.
It seems like there are a whole bunch of adults who are ignoring that this is a kid in a lot of pain, acting like a kid, because what? You want to get dirt? This feels... so icky. Having been the parent on the side of that, again, I feel sadness for what social media has created.
Having been an online over-sharer, mummy-blogger, troll, shit-talker, political commentator, dirty-laundry-airer spanning over two decades... this is... just...
It's not right. Good people don't cheer for others pain.
It's not right. Good people don't cheer for others pain.
I don't think people realise just how maladapted our kids have become to minor disagreements. Every day I hear of parents being disowned over what used to be a minor thing.
I try not to talk too much about it out of respect for her, but know that kids can just drop out of school, do nothing, say they have "anxiety" - and parents are absolutely powerless to be parents. I had no idea just HOW powerless until we tried to get our stepdaughter home.
I'm a former child protection worker. I am not a perfect parent, but we have boundaries and rules. Nothing unusual. Like I said, this was literally triggered by asking her to do the dishes. She upped and left, and never came back.
These are two really good kids. But they know how to get their way and play the game. And, we are held hostage by an ideology that says if we don't comply with all their demands, they can say whatever they want and be believed. I can tell you... this is bonkers.
I would not have believed you had it not happened to us. So as much as it might be tempting to get your dopamine from a teenage girl hurting her parents... put yourself in their shoes. I grew up without parents. It's hard. And it hurts. You are never fully whole.
The thing is that parents are in a double-bind, because talking about it = worst person in the world. If I don't talk about it, it looks like I don't care. Obviously our situation is more complicated as step-family etc, but that isn't it. It ain't right.
The one thing I can do is show her that I heard her by not talking about her. But, then, I have to sit and watch Claudia be used by psychopaths and I have to speak up and say something about what this destructive cult is doing to families. It's doing EXACTLY what cults do.
You can't tell me that a 15 yr old girl, propped up by the Wokerati Mean Girl Club and Insta-clout club, doesn't get social capital out of this. But it isn't good for her to be used in this way. You're the bad guys.
All of these well-intentioned rules have been weaponised. Even as a CP worker, you interview the kid and have TRAINING and learn how to get to the truth. We KNOW that kids can tell stories. Now, truth is secondary to Twitter fan fiction & victim cosplay for attention and cash.
