i don't know how to communicate when I am hurting. I get passive-aggressive bc I don't know how to articulate what I am feeling. I have to first sit with my feelings to articulate how I feel. this made my love relationships harder bc when i am not given space, is i am aggressive

space in relationships isn't going days without talking to each other. it can be acknowledging each other while giving each other room to be. Individuality is crucial and it makes it easier to resolve conflict. You won't gaslight yourself bc you have room to think things through

also wanting to be in each other's space is the conditioned lie to view love as control or ownership. We don't own people, we experience them even in romantic relationships. You own no one. They are full individuals whose lives should stay afloat either you are there or not