Dear sweeties, can I please be your happy, fulfilled, well-loved middle aged auntie for a minute and tell you this little life rule:

We do not date people who make us feel bad about ourselves. We do not date people we don’t feel very good about.

Dating should feel good.

And sex! Sex makes this rule 100% more important!

We don’t have sex with people who don’t make us feel fucking fabulous about ourselves. We don’t have sex with people who don’t rock our world.

Sex, if you decide to have it, is for feeling fucking awesome.

If you internalize these little rules, I promise, life gets a thousand times better.

You can pass by the people who just aren’t for you. And find the people who really are.

Pleasure is not the only thing that matters: honesty, integrity, kindness, so many other things do too.

But feeling good is a non-negotiable for a relationship! Not the only one, but a very important one!