Tw// Toxic Filipino family culture
Okay I'm not doing this thread to put hate on Filipino families since I am also part of one, this thread is mostly about what I think as someone's child and pls don't open this thread if you won't be open minded & would just tell hate :)

++ I am not saying that all Filipino family are likes this because Filipino families are still one of the best because of their hospitality , love and kindness & all these are just what I saw & experienced throughout my years of living in Filipino culture & I love my fam.. OK?

P. S. This is only my opinion and experiences so please do not proceed if you don't wanna listen and see my side / opinion. thank you :)

Tw// disrespect
Some parents think that if you answer them / tell them your opinion, you're already disrespectful since you talked back.
(well for me as a child I think communication is important & all opinions should be considered ++
we should listen & talk it out peacefully)

Tw// apology
Since we are their children some parents think that even if they are wrong we should apologize.
(I think apology should be done by us and the parents whether it's their fault / our fault because we did hurt each other through words & we should put down our pride)

Tw// financial issues
I know some parents experienced this and sometimes they put their stress onto their children which is not correct. Because of their lack of money they tend to tell their children "nagtatae ba kami ng pera?! " , "pano nalang pag namatay kami?" and many more..

(for me as a minor I feel like that's too much and after hearing them say that it makes me feel terrible because I wonder... why do they have to tell us that kind of thought? and I just wish I can help them somehow)

Tw// cell phones or any gadgets
When you have an old phone that's been acting up < medyo lag or something > they would say "wala ng bibili sayo ng cell phone umayos ka" (well yes I understand that point but do they have to talk harsh? I know they are having a hard time but pls

Don't ever put your stress to your children because even if you think they are old or tough... They are actually soft & crying inside) ++ about the time u consume when you are using your phone, they would say that you are being lazy, "pabigat", or "di tumutulong sa bahay"

But imagine... What if you are a vlogger & they don't know that you are doing well in your vlogging career since they don't know you're vlogging.. Imagine how painful it is that you just wanted to help but they don't see it (bit still theyre our parents & we should love them)

Tw// academics
Even if you're with honors or not i think u can relate to this... (me as a student would get pressured by my parents, they would say "bat si ***** mataas grades bat ikaw mababa?", "puro ka kase cellphone kaya bumababa grades mo", and many more... )

++ Some parents don't probably notice this... That they are comparing their child to others and that makes their child's self confidence down & what's worst is that their child won't enjoy the thing they liked doing before

Tw// jobs after graduating
Some parent think that after graduating we should be the one who is giving them their daily finances ( I mean yes we should really give back to them because of their hard work but not to the point that we can't save up for our own future just because

they are lacking money) cause I feel like sometimes the thing the call "help" is kinda of like another responsibility and it doesn't feel like just a help anymore

++ I think some parents are making their child like an investment where they would give you schooling, and all those things for your studies then when u graduated & if you could not give back fast they would get disappointed & would think of you as someone with no goals in life.

(This scenario.. I've seen these in my older siblings since our parents think that way but... I also wanna voice out on my siblings behalf)

Tw// harsh words
I didn't experienced this thankfully but I think there are some parents who tells harsh words to their children and for me that's very painful to see specially because we teens look up to them and ofc hearing harsh word from your parents hurts 10x more

These are the ones I saw and experienced and I know some of you would probably relate to this.
But always remember that whatever happens they are still our family and we should be grateful of receiving their love despite of these things<3