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About reciprocity in marriages , I have learnt that one shouldn’t ever aspire to 50/50 because that might be a set up for avoidable stress.
Be ready and willing to give a 100, and what this translates to is that you will do your best at any time, and the other person does same.
Be ready and willing to give a 100, and what this translates to is that you will do your best at any time, and the other person does same.
You have to understand that sometimes you’d be giving a 60 while the other person is giving a 40. Other times, they are giving a 70 while you are only just trying with 30.
The beauty of all these should be in the effort and understanding that ya all would do more if you could.
The beauty of all these should be in the effort and understanding that ya all would do more if you could.
The idea of 50 50 gives an allusion that if I do A, they must do B. If I do B, they do C. And I’ll be real with you, it rarely ever works that way.
But imagine everyone aspiring to do A to Z but understanding that there are weaknesses and thus, the other person can come in.
But imagine everyone aspiring to do A to Z but understanding that there are weaknesses and thus, the other person can come in.
And this isn’t only in doing. This is in feeling too.
When people say one person loves more than the other in a relationship, I say that no, that shouldn’t be what you are bothered about because what are you measuring with?
Do you have a scoreboard? What are the criteria?
When people say one person loves more than the other in a relationship, I say that no, that shouldn’t be what you are bothered about because what are you measuring with?
Do you have a scoreboard? What are the criteria?
When people love each other, it gets more or less intense at some times. The person who seems to love more today can be seen to be beneath on the points tomorrow, because it really depends on what you are scoring with.
True love shouldn’t be measured, really.
True love shouldn’t be measured, really.
This is also why I don’t believe in having static roles in the home. Yes, you could assign roles to make accountability easier, but don’t ever make it unmovable.
Always have the mind to put in when your partner can’t. Never feel like you can’t do something because they should.
Always have the mind to put in when your partner can’t. Never feel like you can’t do something because they should.
So your partner is the regular cook? Step in as often as you can. .
So your partner buys all the groceries? Don’t always wait for them to do it as long as you have the capability.
This whole readiness to work together as a team is a great recipe for success, if done properly.
So your partner buys all the groceries? Don’t always wait for them to do it as long as you have the capability.
This whole readiness to work together as a team is a great recipe for success, if done properly.
In summary, be more about getting things done and not : “Who got it done”.
As long as you know that your partner is also willing to put in work and they aren’t selfish, please go all out for the people you love without putting a measure to it.
As long as you know that your partner is also willing to put in work and they aren’t selfish, please go all out for the people you love without putting a measure to it.
Again, all of these apply to me too. I am also learning, and growing.
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