I’m have a spinal injury caused by domestic violence that causes me #chronicpain and will for the rest of my life. I’m currently on the upswing of a recent pain flare up. Today I’m sharing why it’s okay to hit an abuser back. #DomesticAbuse

If you find yourself in a physically #abusiverelationship, (because it can happen to anyone) don’t be the bigger person. That shit is a scam taught to us by people who are uncomfortable enforcing #boundaries or who want to cross yours. Hit them the fuck back. Here’s why:

The odds are against you, they will most likely get away with this. Justice isn’t really a thing. Sucks, but true.

No one is coming to rescue you, accept that

You’ll fucking rot inside wishing you had

No one will believe you anyway so you might as well put up a fight

Upset the power imbalance they’re so comfortable in. One they likely created. Shake that shit up. They might come back harder, but make them work for it.

It makes things loud, which they hate. It’s scary, but noise is good. Embrace the chaos of it. Break shit, yell, make it loud & messy. Wear them out. Make the neighbors worry. (This is impossible when kids are home because we don’t want them to know, but if they’re not, go ham)

Make it as hard and as difficult as possible for them to harm you. They won’t ever stop doing it, but they might not always wanna put up the energy if they know they’re about to enter a knock-down-drag-out

Revenge. Yup. Not very high ground of me but physical abuse comes with emotional warfare and unmatch #psychologicalabuse. You deserve a little revenge

If you’re unfortunate enough to suffer chronic pain for the rest of your life due to someone taking away your autonomy and power by physically harming you, you can take a smidge of comfort in the memory of those one or two solid cold cocks you got to their throat

And lastly, there is no such thing as a “good” or more believable victim. All victims are gaslighted to by friends, family and police

All victims will suffer the eventual PR campaign to discredit them waged by their abusers

You will be called crazy, even if you never fought back. So fight back. It’s literally okay to do it

National #DomesticViolence violence hotline 1-800-799- 7233

I should add that not everyone will be able to/want to do this. This thread is for those who have wanted to fight back but held it in because it felt wrong. Those who can’t, it’s okay. It doesn’t make you weak. You should never be put in this position in the first place.

Remember, it takes an average of 7 attempts to finally leave your abuser for good. You haven’t failed if you went back. You’re just not there yet. I’ll see you on the other side