1-She loses her temper over something small

2-She blames you for it

3-You stay calm, start working on a solution

4-She blames you again

5-You still stay calm

6-She makes the attack more personal

7-You finally lose your temper

8-BAM! She blames you for losing your temper

HER GOAL

• To escalate drama, because drama excites her

• To shift blame away from herself, so she doesn't feel responsible

• To direct her anger towards you, either because she genuinely convinced herself that somehow this is your fault, or because you happen to be around

This is not toxic behavior, btw

Most women are like this

It's part of their "female logic" brain