In 1999, Black Music for a teen was very polar. You’re rap of R&B.

Female artists were “nice girls” who loved their many so much that all the songs were baby baby sweet baby love...

Then there was @kelis

Back then, we had “The Box”. You turned to the channel & there was a scrolling list selection like a jukebox. You called the number & ordered your videos.
Most of us watched the box to see videos nonstop

I was watching one day & someone ordered & I was like “who is @kelis “? I like her name!

A blk singer I never heard of? All I knew was that Hype Wiliams was presenting...

When @HypeWilliams was presenting; you know it was giving what it POSTA GAVE!

So here comes a #blackhorror of a black woman in an insane asylum

Black ppl aint fuck with no devilish horror!!

But it’s a video...here comes @kelis in strawberry lemonade from Wendy’s hair saying “You aint break the way you shoulda, but I break “

So why is this important? I keep telling y’all that the “free black woman” is a NEW CONCEPT.
We may have had some outliers pushing it but actually seeing it is NEW
Black woken were told to “keep it together, anger is not of God” & “the Bible says u cant hate” but @kelis said

Anger is an emotion that’s used against black women. We are only allowed to be “sitting up in our rooms” laying on the couch crying to ourselves.
@kelis said “bitch u been lied to! Get mad!”

I was a teen with many teen emotions. @kelis knew that black women don’t have the freedom to feel rage !
I felt rage inside of me but “the bible says...”

@kelis said “BREAK BITCH”

I want u to understand the importance of the hair.
Black women did color was told it was ghetto.

The girls kept relaxed hair. No fros

Here came @kelis with strawberry lemonade hair & all the girls got koolaid packs tryna make it happen

That hair would do the screaming 4 us

Let’s get back to the rage. We are never allowed to be angry! Ppl can step on our spines & we were told to be grateful for the subsequent wheelchair
@kelis was SCREAMING on video with her HOUSE SHOES ON

Skip to 2003. Black women are always told to be meek & mild!

Men: the black woman needs to learn submission!

@kelis :

Black women are always told “you’re too aggressive, you come on strong! You’re too independent! No man likes a strong woman! Stop driving! Sit in the passenger seat”

@kelis :

I also want to say this. In an age where black women are always told to be prim & proper, @kelis saying “aye yo” or “yo” on every song spoke to my “from the northeast” spirit

Black women are always told to be humble! Dont talk about why you’re amazing! Nobody likes that! If ppl wrong you ( @Pharrell pay her) turn the other cheek! Nobody needs reminders of your greatness!

THE BIBLE SAYS!

@kelis :

Also to be noted...yes she was married but @kelis always let us know that she loved her hub but “BITCH LOOK AT ME”

It’s the integration of “diamonds on my neck, Diamonds on my grill” for me

Them: don’t talk about your lady parts!
@kelis :

Honey we had milkshake on our voicemails! The black mothers were all leaving messages “you’re milkshake?” @kelis shoulda got a milkshake endorsement deal lol

@kelis WAS THE CULTURAL RESET!
She came out screaming & slicing every stereotype that said black women have to be nice.

She made it ok for me to feel whatever I feel and everyone who tried to give me scripture to make me “be nice” could suck my dick

If you would like to stop being a “nice girl” with tires on your face & become a boss bitch like @kelis attend my workshop “Stop Being Nice!” https://www.eventbrite.com/e/123220272151 

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