As today went on, I got inordinately angry at the pro forma well-wishes and prayers for Trump, and incensed at calls to be civil and take the high road. After dinner, I figured out why I got as pissed as I did. 1/5
We have had no National day of mourning, no moment of holding space to honor our individual and collective grief. This absence is particularly hard because many of us have made the painful sacrificial choice to miss funerals. Our spiritual needs are unmet. 2/5
Trump getting sick is the closest thing we’ve had to a shared national experience. Trump - who let the pandemic run wild in the first place, never gave us a moment of silence, never shared our sacrifice, never stopped being a bigot and a bully, never tried to lead us out. 3/5
And we’re supposed to go through the motions of support for him FIRST? Fuck that. All the way fuck that. We’ve had no national moment for the 210,000 dead or the 7 million infected. He will NOT be the first person we nationally rally around. Hard fucking no. 4/5
Lastly, civility Christians: your admonitions are out of order. A white supremacist president is blaming Asians for a plague that is ravaging Black, Brown and Native people. Name that evil and end it before even thinking about suggesting that anyone turn the other cheek. 5/5
One more thing. I’ve been working with clergy for 13 years. Pastors, remember: what you say 1st shows where your heart is. You can never un-ring that bell. You can’t pray for the abuser and accompany the abused at the same time. You have to put one before the other. Choose wisely