You start healing from codependency when you realize you are what you really want. Lack of self-concept and self-actualization will have you thinking there are no mirrors in your home. So you look to be seen by others so you’re reminded you exist. Well, you don’t need to.

What if you realized this whole time, people love you because you’re you? If you try to mesh with others, what that does is basically creating a clone of the person for the person. Unless they’re a full blown narcissist, no one wants to be around a copy of themselves.

I chose you because you’re not me. Don’t agree with everything I say, don’t have your life revolve around me, don’t become my handmaiden waiting hand and foot for me to validate you. You exist on your own and that’s beautiful thing. People want you, not a copy of themselves.