Currently watching First Man and Ryan Gosling is so painfully unable to engage with his kids https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😭" title="Laut schreiendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Laut schreiendes Gesicht">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😭" title="Laut schreiendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Laut schreiendes Gesicht">

No-one wants to tell their kids they might not be coming home, but you& #39;ve still got to have that conversation.

My dad& #39;s dad was a pilot, died in an aeroplane crash when he was 2 or 3, my grandma remarried his uncle and we find it hard to talk about as a family.

So this hits quite hard.

I& #39;m fairly sure my grandma had to move out of the RAF accommodation she was in soon after his death, with her 3 young children. I think there was a sense it was bad for morale to have a pilot& #39;s widow around.

Idk I just have a bit of a sense of how that kind of loss lingers and is hard to talk about. My grandad didn& #39;t die in WW2, he died afterwards in an accident. My grandma wasn& #39;t even sure who was flying the plane until a few years ago, when my dad wrote to someone in the RAF...

...who confirmed they didn& #39;t know who was flying the plane at the time.

(But then part of me wonders if that& #39;s a kind lie, because I think the crash was due to the pilot& #39;s misjudgement, but surely the truth would be kindest after all these years?)

Ok just talked to my dad and apparently they& #39;re fairly sure his dad was flying at the time

He was doing a tricky manoeuvre, flying low (which my dad says they didn& #39;t really need to train people to do, since planes didn& #39;t chase each other while flying low much any more), and he just pushed it too far and lost lift

This is the kind of plane he was flying, a Provost. I can& #39;t believe how tiny and old it looks nowadays.

(Not sure if this thread is interesting to anyone else, but it& #39;s helping me process, so hey.)