I don’t know who needs to hear this, but just a reminder that calls to “be kind” to someone who has abused you is a gaslighting tactic.

It furthers the idea that the abuser is deserving of considerations that his or her victims are not.

I personally hope that all of our abusers live long enough to be brought to justice.

But I understand the rage of people who are told to suppress their feelings when a person who has treated their life as disposable is forced to deal with the consequences of his actions.

Hi! Since this is gaining traction and since it clearly needs to be pointed out! https://twitter.com/DanielleMuscato/status/823406161194008576?s=20

Also this, on the history of Hamilton's play "Gaslight," which first appeared in 1938, just weeks before Hitler was named Man of the Year by Time and its link to Orwellian doublethink: https://lareviewofbooks.org/article/on-the-origins-of-gaslighting/

And on how gaslighting can be private or institutional and systemic: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327944201_Gaslighting_and_the_knot_theory_of_mind

There's much, much more out there on the broad applications and uses of this term. Thanks for reading and sharing.

Also, for the people going apoplectic in my mentions that “this isn’t gaslighting” - in fact, it is. Here are more sources. This is a nuanced, multifaceted term. Just because you don’t agree doesn’t make me wrong, especially since my usage of the term is evidence based.

A really important point. I should have used more inclusive pronouns. Thanks to @masongoodings for pointing this out https://twitter.com/masongoodings/status/1312577424379408386