Asking marginalized people to publicly perform grief for the folks singularly focused on our destruction is largely about one's own guilt for being complicit in systems of oppression. You're worried that if we can't forgive them, maybe we won't forgive your racist family. Or you.

I still think people know at some deep level that their racist ideology is wrong. That's why they are always seeking comfort from the folks on the receiving end of racist abuse. Maybe racism requires constant assurances that you're a "good person" because you're actually not.

We know COVID-19 isn't a punishment. We are overrepresented in the numbers of folks impacted by it. There have been so many people going to funerals on Zoom. You're not breaking news. You're trying to quiet your own cognitive dissonance. My other hot takes going in the group chat