If you look back on yourself from a year ago or even just a few months ago and are like"Why tf was i like thathttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😢" title="Weinendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Weinendes Gesicht">"Dont feel bad. Because guess what. It meansyoure becomjng a better personhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😊" title="Lächelndes Gesicht mit lächelnden Augen" aria-label="Emoji: Lächelndes Gesicht mit lächelnden Augen">

But also dont think people youve hurt are obligated to like or forgive you just because youve changed. Even if YOURE better, it doesnt make what you DID better

And if youve traumatized them dont try to stop them from talking negatively about you. When the impact your actions had on a person was that significant it is completely within their right to hate you and vent about you even if what you did to them isnt something youd ever do now

(And this should be a given but if you claim what you did "wasnt bad enough" to traumatize them and claim theyre faking or theyre too sensitive you still need to change.)