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TIL about the absolutely toxic term "hugboxing", the idea that trans people providing unconditional support for each others& #39; appearance is bad because it doesn& #39;t help trans people pass. Well guess what... passing is bullshit!
The idea that there are objective traits that align to cisgender appearance is not only gross as fuck, it& #39;s demonstrably wrong. People fail to be read as their assigned gender all the time.
I know because I grew up often being read as female despite being AMAB. Malefailing was such a huge part of my childhood that it resulted in constant bullying and abuse. I& #39;ve got some pretty heavy trauma as a result of it.
Before you go "being femme must be nice" consider what I& #39;m actually saying here: Gendered traits are not objective. They& #39;re extremely fucking subjective. We have ample evidence of this. The fact that cis women get attacked by transphobes who think they& #39;re trans women is evidence.
Passing serves only one function: Being stealth so you can hide the fact that you& #39;re trans from bigots. It& #39;s a difficult reality to face, but by trying to pass, you& #39;re trying to conform to a cisnormative definition of gender so as to please the people who hate you.
