My heart is breaking for @chrissyteigen and @johnlegend, who’ve lost their beloved Jack. When I miscarried, I mourned deeply and privately. No woman who miscarries should feel shame or be judged. What’s needed is compassion. Let’s hold this family in their grief.

We need to talk more about miscarriage so that women do not compound their grief with shame. It is so easy to see yourself as broken, to blame yourself, to hide. I am heartbroken for their family but also so grateful for—and in awe of—how they are sharing this loss with us.

When people share their pain with you—when they tell their most difficult stories—they are giving you a gift. They are trusting you with it. Handle it with care.