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(About "queer")
"I& #39;m uncomfy with X" isn& #39;t "X triggers me". It means "X is a squick. It makes me uncomfortable."
"X triggers me" means "I have an unwelcome and involuntary response to X that makes it unpleasant/painful for me to see."
Both are valid! But they& #39;re not the same. +
"I& #39;m uncomfy with X" isn& #39;t "X triggers me". It means "X is a squick. It makes me uncomfortable."
"X triggers me" means "I have an unwelcome and involuntary response to X that makes it unpleasant/painful for me to see."
Both are valid! But they& #39;re not the same. +
+ A trigger isn& #39;t "ew gross" or "that& #39;s a slur :/". A trigger is tears, it& #39;s sobbing, it& #39;s not being able to breathe. Or it& #39;s nightmares, flashbacks, recurring pangs of anxiety. It& #39;s distress.
It& #39;s not "this is uncomfortable".
A squick is discomfort. A trigger is DISTRESS. +
It& #39;s not "this is uncomfortable".
A squick is discomfort. A trigger is DISTRESS. +
+ I see a lot of young people nowadays who forget the past and put their comfort first, and it angers me. It angers me that you place your comfort before someone else& #39;s self-expression, that you worry about your own "ew :/" before someone else& #39;s "this is who I am"
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If I say I am queer, I REFUSE to censor myself for your "comfort." Be uncomfortable, for once. After all, the cishets are, why the fuck can& #39;t you be?
I& #39;m here, I& #39;m queer, and I fucking FOUGHT to be recognized as such. That is my identity. I& #39;m not censoring who I am. +
I& #39;m here, I& #39;m queer, and I fucking FOUGHT to be recognized as such. That is my identity. I& #39;m not censoring who I am. +
+ You need to realize what you are asking when you say "don& #39;t reclaim slurs, I& #39;m uncomfortable". Because you& #39;re asking me to let that word, that word I fought to use, that word I throw in my homophobic family& #39;s face, to hurt me again. You are asking me to be a "palatable gay"
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+ and to that I say:
Fuck you. I& #39;m not here to be palatable. I& #39;m not here to be unthreatening and Pure and Good.
I am Other. I am non-conforming. I AM queer, I& #39;m weird, I& #39;m WRONG to the Cishets(tm). +
Fuck you. I& #39;m not here to be palatable. I& #39;m not here to be unthreatening and Pure and Good.
I am Other. I am non-conforming. I AM queer, I& #39;m weird, I& #39;m WRONG to the Cishets(tm). +
+ Fuck off with your discomfort. I& #39;m fighting for equality. Not for the CisHets to "allow" my deviance, for EQUAL STANDING.
If you have a genuine trigger? Talk to me. If there& #39;s a way I can express myself without triggering you and without censoring who I am, we can try that. +
If you have a genuine trigger? Talk to me. If there& #39;s a way I can express myself without triggering you and without censoring who I am, we can try that. +
+ But if you& #39;re UNCOMFORTABLE? If seeing the word I use to identify myself as, in a non-aggressive, inwardly directed manner, just causes you discomfort?
Get fucking used to it. I FOUGHT for this. This is MY word, MY identity.
So you can pry it from my cold, dead hands.+
Get fucking used to it. I FOUGHT for this. This is MY word, MY identity.
So you can pry it from my cold, dead hands.+
+ And before you make a smartass comment? Consider those who came before you. Who fought to get gay marriage legalized (2015, in the USA).
And maybe shut your history-ignorant, Twitter-activist mouth, and maybe do some shit to ACTUALLY help.
(You can start with bathroom laws)
And maybe shut your history-ignorant, Twitter-activist mouth, and maybe do some shit to ACTUALLY help.
(You can start with bathroom laws)
