I heard an analogy ago from a grief counselor that& #39;s stuck with me

Just going along with the general way we think of mental illness (including acute mental distress, "mental injury") in moral terms the way we don& #39;t with physical illness or injury

Why do we make these determinations of how much you& #39;re "allowed" to be hurt by something in the emotional or psychological sense

When we all know in the physical world it& #39;s a matter of sheer dumb luck

Why is it a referendum on how worthy you are as a person

There are people who fall out of a damn airplane and their parachute doesn& #39;t open and they smash into the ground in an open field, and they live

There are people who slip and fall in the shower and instantly die

It& #39;s random, it& #39;s all these unknowable factors of physics

There is an *average* length of time it takes to recover from trauma, maybe, but not really a *normal* one

The variance is extreme, and unpredictable

Some people seem to recover very quickly, and are "back on their feet" in a month

Some people *never* recover

Either one is ok

People in Group A aren& #39;t unfeeling bastards who never loved the person they lost

And people in Group B aren& #39;t delicate snowflakes who don& #39;t deserve to be coddled

You never know what kind of reaction you& #39;ll have until it& #39;s your body hitting the ground