I’m not massively sure how to begin, but here we go.

This may seem strange to say, but October is an important month. Not only did me & Paul start dating in October, we have Halloween.

Hi, I’m Christine, I am a mother of two, but they live in my heart and not my hands.

I know the idea of talking openly about hurt or loss, specifically pregnancy or infant loss, is uncomfortable. But, unfortunately it’s very real and very common.

October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month

How it feels during emotionally;
- like scrambling at the side of a cliff you are about to fall from with no rescuer or help
- like having your chest punched so hard your heart stops for a moment
- Failure
- Not meant to be a parent
- Feel like giving up

How it feels after;
- terrified of losing again
- worries people with see you as irreparable, and not worth the time
- losing people you love because of mental illness
- Failure
- not a real parent

Pregnancy & infant loss has affected 1 in 4 pregnancies. That is insanity that some go through it multiple times (I’m one of them).

Don’t let shame, fear, or your guilt stop you from saying you are part of this.

How you can help?
- If the child, or children, have been named; use the name. It validates their life
- if you know the person you care about is struggling, ask twice. We all default to the “I’m fine” or “nothing’s up” when we want to be polite.

- Encourage them to seek professional help
- Tell then you are there.

I’m sorry this is a long post, I’ve had my fair share of losing people I love over it.
If you aren’t comfortable declaring openly, my inbox is there.

#PregnancyandInfantLossAwareness