until you read queer work and live a queer life and fuck and love and care for other queers, the only set of reactions you have toward queerness are the ones straight culture beat into you.
you do not lose the bigotry you learned when you come out. it is a conscious lifelong process to undo and replace that thinking. within queer society revulsion for trans women and gay men comes from this place, as does the equating of gay sex with pedophilia.