Thread by @_6D10nysus9_, Please don't get the wrong idea... I made a lot of friends [...]

Please don& #39;t get the wrong idea...

I made a lot of friends this year, and I got close enough to one of them for them to be comfortable to come out of the closet. She is bi, and she has dated a female once in the past.

Quick disclaimer before I go on:
I will always stand with and support the LGBTQ community
If I have to be honest, I have not really fallen in love or been in a relationship with anyone for me to know my sexuality for sure so change that to I am apart of it.

This friend of mine has been through and is going through a lot. She lives in a country where being anything but straight is illegal- in a country that sees mental illness as "western", and to top that off amongst several other problems, she lives with a toxic Christian family.

Now, if you were in my place and you were a decent human being I& #39;m sure you would have taken the same course of action as me:

I chatted to her regularly to make sure she was alright. I helped her fall asleep when she asked me to. We had lengthy conversations to take her mind off of whatever troubled her. I made sure that no matter how bad my mood was, I was always extra friendly towards her.

I care for her a lot and I get really worried when she has her moments and says or does things that are frightening and could harm her, but I think she is taking my duty as a friend the wrong way.

I told her my nicknames as well as my real name and in the beginning she addressed me as those. But slowly she started calling me pet names like & #39;babe& #39; or & #39;baby& #39; and it made me uncomfortable because I& #39;ve had friends for 4+ years who till date have never called me that.

I know that shouldn& #39;t worry me too much but recently she seems to be getting more and more clingy and possessive, and when she sends me voice notes saying how grateful she is to have me, they always end with an & #39;I love you& #39; that sounds a little too serious for my liking.

You may ask: well then why don& #39;t you tell her that it& #39;s making you uncomfortable?

Like I said, her mind isn& #39;t in the best of places. She takes the smallest things the wrong way and I can& #39;t blame her. She has been through a lot. If she questions her friends& #39; affection already, how do you think she would react to me telling her that? Let me answer that for you:

She would call herself stupid. That dreadful regret might cause her to self-harm. She& #39;ll isolate herself to prevent it from happening again. Her sleepless nights would turn into no sleep at all, as her restless mind would never shut off- and the list could go on...

Also, as mentioned at the beginning, she has dated a female before and got her heart broken, I don& #39;t want her to get her heart broken again before she even has had a chance to date anyone.

Maybe I& #39;ll find the courage to tell her exactly how I feel soon, but for now I have resolved to gradually reducing the amount of attention I give her until we& #39;re neutral again. My message is in the very first tweet but let me explain it a little bit to end this thread:

When all life throws at us is darkness, but this one little ray of hope enters our lives, we cant help but want to latch onto it. It& #39;s normal, and there& #39;s no problem with that. However there is a limit to how much you depend on that little ray of light.

In simple terms, people come into our lives to help us. We may look up to them as a savior and be really grateful to them, but we shouldn& #39;t confuse our thanks and their help for love. I& #39;m not saying they don& #39;t love you, I& #39;m just saying you shouldn& #39;t take their love the wrong way.

Sure they love and care for you as a friend, but that doesn& #39;t mean that they would want a serious dating relationship between the two of you. If you do act like that, please consider how uncomfortable it makes the other feel.

I understand you can& #39;t help it as you may not be in the best of situations, but I am sure you& #39;d rather hold back your urges than lose a true friend.
Have a great day/night and stay safe

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