Why Deku & Kacchan ‘s relationship was not only non-toxic but were also healthy and productive

A partnership that led to greatness
(not necessarily romantic)

An analysis thread.
(I’ve read up to chapter 285 when making this)
#BNHA

1. Partnership with healthy rivalry: They are not each other’s “comfort zone” but is “comfortable” with each other

1A. I think we all agree that being in a “comfort zone” (for too long) will silently kill your growth.

1B. were never each other’s “comfort zone”. They’re in constant rivalry to top each other (may or may not be literal) and no one can deny the fact that them together, boosts each other’s growth tremendously.

1C. They might not be at first, but after they solved all their misunderstandings, they are now “comfortable” with each other.

1D. This “not comfort zone but comfortable” is the recipe to create the strong and stable ENGINE where they can race, but also keep an eye on each other. if 1 of them ever go “too fast” to point of damaging oneself, the other will be there to hit the BRAKE for them

2. Being straightforward and honest to each other

2A. Both have the same quality. They’re honest with themselves, and honest with each other. No fake positivity, but also no unnecessary negativity.

2B. One of the worst toxic traits in relationship is when one have to constantly worry abt the other’s feelings, or if the other is hiding something (even if it’s for good intentions).

2C. They’re portrayed as people who don’t even say white lies (even in life threatening situation). And i think this “honesty” plays a huge role in their relationship.

2D. was always mad at in early chapters because he thought always have something up his sleeve, or lied to him abt his quirk etc. But even then, couldn’t bear lying/hiding something from

2E. After they resolved this misunderstanding, they then proceed to create trust-based partnership where they share OFA secret and even get to help with it. With trust as their base, they have strongest and most solid relationship FRAMEWORK of all.

3. Their personalities and approach to things were (VERY) different but they have the same willingness to learn and understand where the other came from

3A. A lot of people are mistaken when looking for partners. They will PRIORITIZE to look for someone that would share similar interests with them, or could laugh at the same joke etc. Those were important and nice to have but it won’t be enough to keep a pair last a long time

3B. Because people are different.

One day the “honeymoon phase” will end and they will be confronted with their differences. What decided the fate of that partnership is: are they willing to learn and understand why the other person do things and see things differently.

3C. This will not work if only 1 does it. That’s why it was bumpy for at first. watched ’s back since they were kids and admired him, therefore understood where came from.

3D. And that’s why even tho disliked ’s attitude towards him, never hated personally because he knew (at least roughly) why did that and what his intentions were.

3E. on the other hand, WAS a boy with too much pride to really look and learn. (just like, you know, a lot of people on the internet who attacked other people [verbally] only bcs of different opinions or interests)

3F. Society made believe that he was the BEST so he assumed other ways that were not his ways were wrong, including ’s way. So his pride turned that fear-of-the-unknown and frustration into anger and attacked .

3G. But was a fast learner and deep inside, he’s someone that likes to learn. When he understood that his (excessive) pride hinders him from greatness, and that trying to understand people’s way that are different will benefit him.

3H. He changed and since then he’s been putting effort to understand way (and other people’s ways as well) and even able to manifest it in the recent chapter. This quality is the SKILL required to run the relationship.

3I. This is one of the most important similarity that a people should look in their partners. You can have all differences in the world, but if you both have the ENOUGH amount and SAME willingness to LEARN, no difference is too different.

4. They aim for the same goal

4A. I believe that in any kind of partnerships (romantic, business,etc) goal is the FUEL. You can have all the similarities in the world and declare all the love you want, but if you have different goals, soon, the gas in the tank will run out.

4B. have the same purpose which is to become the GREATEST hero. In what way? Save to win, win to safe. As long as they keep these same goal, it will keep them going forever, no matter what obstacle they’re facing.

5. They “slap” each other back to their senses when 1 seem to go off the course of their goal

5A. Human’s are weak (yes they are fictional characters, but Hori-sensei depicted them as humans). When alone, humans are very easy to slack off, procrastinate, or just get distracted.

5B. had slapped hard when he’s abt to give up, and will make sure that is NOT satisfied with half-assed results and achievement. They will “punch” the other person only to make sure that they don’t slack off. They are each other’s GPS and watchdog.

6 The way they WORK! The commitment and consistency

6A The way they don’t waver no matter what will become the WHEELS that glides them to their goal. They don’t slack of nor distract each other from their goal.

6B This partnership wouldn’t work if 1 person is less consistent than the other because it will just exhaust 1 person from pulling and pushing the one that slacks off often.

7. Their ability to reflect, analyze, and understand their own emotions, strengths, and weaknesses

7A. This is not something you’re born with. For this ability comes from their need to grow in the fastest amount of time possible. Without this ability people will easily get triggered. Just like early

7B. When were able to analyze why he felt angry towards he’s then able to look for solution. In ’s case was to confront . then got his answers that leads to sense of security, growth and him atoning.

7C. Spoiler ch 284: is already really good at analyzing everything but there’s still 1 problem: he hadn’t REALIZE (he might know but not REALLY understand) the effect of him didn’t put himself into account.

7D. Spoiler ch 285: it’s as if the last pages and are teaching each other what the other didn’t understand: learned what “my body moved on its own” meant,

7E. while learned that him not taking himself into account and trying to carry all the weight alone could “hurt” (saddened) people around him. Just like how he would feel hurt seeing jumped in to protect him. Looking forward for his growth in the upcoming chapters.

8. Mutual RESPECT

8A. “Understanding”is not enough to create THE ultimate partnership. The shield and the ROOF of this partnership that will protect it, is mutual RESPECT for that difference and acknowledging each other’s strengths and weaknesses.

8B. will always be different and they might clash along the way, but as long as they have respect for each other’s difference nothing will get between their partnership. There will no talking behind backs, or taking each other down.

8C. If they have something to complain they will do it in front of each other out of respect. And this mutual respect despite differences will help clear all kind of obstacles in their partnership.

9. They GENUINELY care for each other

Spoiler ch 285: Not necessarily romantic but can we all agree that no love is greater than one willing to die to save the other?

All in all, them being together is very beneficial to other’s growth towards greatness. Even when they still had their misunderstandings in early seasons, i think no one can deny that is the reason for ’s rapid growth and vice versa.

Their dynamic where they push, pull, protect, confront, clash, and mend each other is the perfect recipe for the ultimate partnership

You know what i changed my mind. These are not only qualities for healthy relationship but also for world peace and growth of human race