Thread by @MsCoppelia, Hello Reylos! Can we talk about being demisexual a minute? Because I [...]

Hello Reylos! Can we talk about being demisexual a minute? Because I feel like what non-demi Reylos consider to be demi is very far from the actual reality of being demi

Forgive me if I get a little salty

1. Soulmates (not the trope-y kind with the marks or you somehow magically know.)

This is often love at first sight, not demisexuality. Actual demisexuals need to get to know a person before becoming attracted to them. It& #39;d be closer to mutual pining in terms of tropes.

2. Ben/Reysexual

Yes, I know a lot of us love the idea of only needing to date ONE PERSON EVER AND BE DONE WITH IT FOREVER, but real life don& #39;t work that way. Demis have relationship issues, breakups, and move onto another person (usually slowly).

3. Demis are only horny for 1 person

Wrong! While we overlap a lot with grey/ace/aro identities who feel way less sexual attraction as a whole, half my demi friends are like "If only attraction wasn& #39;t so complicated, I& #39;d get myself laid right now."

You can be poly & demi

Side note: Raise your hand if you& #39;re a demi who just wants someone to sob with about being constantly horny and unable to date like a sexual person.

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I know, I know, it& #39;s just fiction, just fantasy. But still it& #39;d be nice to see a demi reylo fic that doesn& #39;t fall into one of these traps or where it& #39;s hidden in the background. We have actual struggles with love and sexual attraction that could make for a compelling story.

For example, one of the problems I have is that I have to know a person before I ever start developing feelings for them. I& #39;ve fallen for so many friends, you guys. So. Many.
It doesn& #39;t always work out. That would be some primo angsty fic material.

Or another example: I don& #39;t really know if people are flirting with me or not because how do you successfully flirt with a person when you don& #39;t know their sense of humor?

I can see this being a hilariously awkward battle between maybe a demi Rey & not-demi Ben (or vice versa)?

Or even just a "they& #39;ve been friends forever" fic where one of them was so caught up in another crush that they didn& #39;t develop feelings for the other until that crush turned them down (+ some pining from the other side.)

Obviously a lot of this does not include canonverse because when you are a magical space wizard that is part of a rare, magical dyad, it& #39;s a bit more... obvious?

Or maybe not. Demisexual problems in the dyad could make for a rather interesting fic too.

And btw, this isn& #39;t aimed at anyone in particular. I& #39;ve written Ben and Rey being demi-ish and pushed it to the background, etc., etc. This really more of like a "hey, it& #39;d be really cool to see more complex representation of demisexuals instead of tropes."

If you want to know more about demisexuality, here& #39;s a comic that really helped me solidify identifying as demi (and it helped a few friends figure that bit out about them too.) https://www.facebook.com/LxTamaki/posts/262989295013094">https://www.facebook.com/LxTamaki/...

Thanks for reading everyone!

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Oh yeah, please RT this so other people think about how to better represent demisexuals in their writing!

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