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There’s a lot of really bad advice on sex out there
And I didn’t become an erotic hypnotist and avid student of sexuality for nothing
So get yourself some coffee, a pen and a notepad
Because we’re going to talk sex properly
(You and your girl can thank me later ;)
And I didn’t become an erotic hypnotist and avid student of sexuality for nothing
So get yourself some coffee, a pen and a notepad
Because we’re going to talk sex properly
(You and your girl can thank me later ;)
First of all, sex isn't something that only happens in the bedroom for 20 minutes (being generous here) a few times a week
And sex is definitely way more than simply penis in vagina
Our minds have been warped by years of porn and a society that repressed sex for ages
And sex is definitely way more than simply penis in vagina
Our minds have been warped by years of porn and a society that repressed sex for ages
Porn gives you a one dimensional backward view of sex
As if sex is all about hardcore physical acts
As if the harder and longer you pump, the better lover you are
And even though there is nothing wrong with rough sex
This view is extremely limited
As if sex is all about hardcore physical acts
As if the harder and longer you pump, the better lover you are
And even though there is nothing wrong with rough sex
This view is extremely limited
We are taught that sex is mostly a physical act
This is absolute nonsense
Sex is a mental, emotional, and if done right, even a spiritual act
ESPECIALLY FOR HER
I cannot repeat enough times that for women
sex = mental > physical
This is absolute nonsense
Sex is a mental, emotional, and if done right, even a spiritual act
ESPECIALLY FOR HER
I cannot repeat enough times that for women
sex = mental > physical
Sex is much much more than penetration with the goal of orgasm
The way she looks at you, or you at her can already be pure sex
A touch, a text message, simply knowing you'll see each other soon again
All of these can be pure sex
The way she looks at you, or you at her can already be pure sex
A touch, a text message, simply knowing you'll see each other soon again
All of these can be pure sex
In fact porn is very detrimental for your sexual performance for several reasons
First off, you'll start comparing yourself to porn stars both in size & performance
In both of which, porn stars are extreme outliers
Male porn actors are stiff on tons of Viagra
First off, you'll start comparing yourself to porn stars both in size & performance
In both of which, porn stars are extreme outliers
Male porn actors are stiff on tons of Viagra
When you watch porn, you're teaching yourself that the standard is huge schlongs that can keep battering vaginas for 30 -60 minutes
When the average penis size is about 12-16 centimeters depending on ethnicity
And men on average only last 6-7 minutes
When the average penis size is about 12-16 centimeters depending on ethnicity
And men on average only last 6-7 minutes
Porn teaches you a way of sex that's very muscle intensive for men & very passive for women
Pretty much every sexual position can be performed by either the man or the woman doing the brunt of the work
When she does half the work, you'll last 2x as long
Pretty much every sexual position can be performed by either the man or the woman doing the brunt of the work
When she does half the work, you'll last 2x as long
Porn is bad for you for another reason that you've probably never even thought of
Porn sex is a very core muscle intensive form of sex
It's based on hard thrusting
Which makes you cramp up your abs & ass
Putting pressure on your crotch, making you orgasm faster
Porn sex is a very core muscle intensive form of sex
It's based on hard thrusting
Which makes you cramp up your abs & ass
Putting pressure on your crotch, making you orgasm faster
And if you don't like to take on a more passive role in bed
Remember that you can either thrust yourself forward using your core muscles
Or you can pull her in using your arms
Feels the same, but keeps your core more relaxed & you'll last longer
Remember that you can either thrust yourself forward using your core muscles
Or you can pull her in using your arms
Feels the same, but keeps your core more relaxed & you'll last longer
One last bad thing about porn and masturbation
They program you to orgasm really fast because orgasm is their sole focus
So if you do want to watch porn/masturbate
Make sure you take the opportunity to actually learn how to last longer
Enough about porn, let's talk sexuality
They program you to orgasm really fast because orgasm is their sole focus
So if you do want to watch porn/masturbate
Make sure you take the opportunity to actually learn how to last longer
Enough about porn, let's talk sexuality
What is sexuality exactly?
Sexuality is a polarity
Masculine and feminine magnetically attracting each other
Creating tension. Sexual tension
Which can be released through sex
And also through the act of creation
(Sexual transmutation is real)
Sexuality is a polarity
Masculine and feminine magnetically attracting each other
Creating tension. Sexual tension
Which can be released through sex
And also through the act of creation
(Sexual transmutation is real)
What is important, is to know that sexuality (the thing that leads to sex) is tension, it's an energy
The stronger you are grounded in your own sexual energy
The more you'll attract sex
The more you'll ooze sex
Especially for men, sexual energy has little to do with looks
The stronger you are grounded in your own sexual energy
The more you'll attract sex
The more you'll ooze sex
Especially for men, sexual energy has little to do with looks
Now I'll be the last to deny women love hot men
But looks are only a small part of sexuality for women
What is extremely important however, is the shape you're in
A healthy, muscular man is a sexual man
I know this isn't novel advice, but it is so important that I included it
But looks are only a small part of sexuality for women
What is extremely important however, is the shape you're in
A healthy, muscular man is a sexual man
I know this isn't novel advice, but it is so important that I included it
Rather than focussing on "learning to get laid" start focussing on learning how to maximize your sexuality
A very sexual man, that is completely confident in his sexuality will never have issues getting women to want him
Women want sex, when you ooze sex, women want you!
A very sexual man, that is completely confident in his sexuality will never have issues getting women to want him
Women want sex, when you ooze sex, women want you!
Sex starts way before any physical penetration takes place
Sex even starts way before any real foreplay takes place
Sex starts when your masculine energy penetrates her world
Because when your sexual energy touches hers
That's when she starts fantasizing about you
Sex even starts way before any real foreplay takes place
Sex starts when your masculine energy penetrates her world
Because when your sexual energy touches hers
That's when she starts fantasizing about you
I cannot stress enough how important this is
Sex starts in her imagination
This is what the entire alpha fucks beta bucks thing evolves around
Can you get her to fantasize about you sexually?
If you can, you can get away with anything
If you can't you're at best "beta bux"
Sex starts in her imagination
This is what the entire alpha fucks beta bucks thing evolves around
Can you get her to fantasize about you sexually?
If you can, you can get away with anything
If you can't you're at best "beta bux"
If you can get her to fantasize about you in a sexual way
Physical sex will eventually happen if you pursue it (even if you make many mistakes)
But if you can't make her fantasize about you sexually
You could do everything else perfectly and nothing will happen
Physical sex will eventually happen if you pursue it (even if you make many mistakes)
But if you can't make her fantasize about you sexually
You could do everything else perfectly and nothing will happen
What does your sexual masculinity (or femininity) consist of?
Four main pillars
- physical
- mental
- emotional
- spiritual
I'll give a brief summary of all four (if you want to get the detailed version, get yourself a copy of my book here: https://gumroad.com/l/datingking )
Four main pillars
- physical
- mental
- emotional
- spiritual
I'll give a brief summary of all four (if you want to get the detailed version, get yourself a copy of my book here: https://gumroad.com/l/datingking )
Physical sexuality:
How good do you look (naked)? This is a combination of genetics and your physical shape (get fit)
How do you physically carry yourself in the world? (posture etc)?
How good are you physically in bed?
I probably don't have to explain why these all matter
How good do you look (naked)? This is a combination of genetics and your physical shape (get fit)
How do you physically carry yourself in the world? (posture etc)?
How good are you physically in bed?
I probably don't have to explain why these all matter
Emotional sexuality (1/2):
Now this is where a lot of guys get stuck
They believe the only two options are either crybaby or cold stoic
Both of which are huge turn offs for women
Women are emotional creatures, neither of those two extremes can connect with her emotionally
Now this is where a lot of guys get stuck
They believe the only two options are either crybaby or cold stoic
Both of which are huge turn offs for women
Women are emotional creatures, neither of those two extremes can connect with her emotionally
Emotional sexuality (2/2):
Women love a man that is emotionally mature
This means a man that knows how to control & use his emotions
To turn them into passion and drive
To see him love and create without abandon
It's why women swoon over artistic & passionate men
Women love a man that is emotionally mature
This means a man that knows how to control & use his emotions
To turn them into passion and drive
To see him love and create without abandon
It's why women swoon over artistic & passionate men
Mental sexuality:
How comfortable are you with your sexuality?
How smart, funny, interesting are you?
Do you understand your sexuality & know how to use it?
Physical sexuality is what initially attracts, mental sexuality is what makes the attraction last
How comfortable are you with your sexuality?
How smart, funny, interesting are you?
Do you understand your sexuality & know how to use it?
Physical sexuality is what initially attracts, mental sexuality is what makes the attraction last
Spiritual sexuality (1/2):
This one is the hardest to explain and it overlaps with emotional sexuality
Spiritual sexuality is the strong bond you two can create
The bond that will keep you together for a lifetime
A connection that makes you two feel as if you become one
This one is the hardest to explain and it overlaps with emotional sexuality
Spiritual sexuality is the strong bond you two can create
The bond that will keep you together for a lifetime
A connection that makes you two feel as if you become one
Spiritual sexuality (2/2):
Spiritual sexuality is something that takes time to develop
It's what makes people that have been together for 30 years still be madly in love
And it's also a result of doing the first 3 pillars right
Now let's get back to physical sex
Spiritual sexuality is something that takes time to develop
It's what makes people that have been together for 30 years still be madly in love
And it's also a result of doing the first 3 pillars right
Now let's get back to physical sex
Here's a few things for you to focus on during sex so that you can last longer and perform better:
1) Learn how to breath properly. Better oxygenation means better stamina and less tension in the body
2) Kegel (& anti Kegel) exercises.
Kegel muscles are sex muscles, train them
1) Learn how to breath properly. Better oxygenation means better stamina and less tension in the body
2) Kegel (& anti Kegel) exercises.
Kegel muscles are sex muscles, train them
3) Teach yourself to be in the moment (ladies pay attention here)
Half of all sexual issues come from people overthinking and overworrying
Instead of needlessly worrying about what the other is thinking, focus on what your body is experiencing
(step 1 to easier orgasms ladies)
Half of all sexual issues come from people overthinking and overworrying
Instead of needlessly worrying about what the other is thinking, focus on what your body is experiencing
(step 1 to easier orgasms ladies)
4) Learn how to give oral (especially if you're a man that's insecure about his sexual performance)
Main cause of erectile dysfunction & premature ejaculation is anxiety
Knowing there's a back up plan lessens that anxiety
The better you get at oral, the less you'll need it
Main cause of erectile dysfunction & premature ejaculation is anxiety
Knowing there's a back up plan lessens that anxiety
The better you get at oral, the less you'll need it
5) Share the burden of performance
In fact realize there is no burden of performance, there is the opportunity to experience pleasure
You are both equally responsible for the quality of your sex
So both give it 100%
Don't accept anything less from your partner or yourself
In fact realize there is no burden of performance, there is the opportunity to experience pleasure
You are both equally responsible for the quality of your sex
So both give it 100%
Don't accept anything less from your partner or yourself
You should both aim as much as possible to maximize the pleasure both of the other AND YOURSELF
Which ties into
6) Don't forget your own pleasure
Too many people only try to please the other during sex & forget enjoying it themselves
Huge problem in sex
Which ties into
6) Don't forget your own pleasure
Too many people only try to please the other during sex & forget enjoying it themselves
Huge problem in sex
7) The best bedrooms are a no judgment zone
The more you judge the other on their performance, the more they'll start stressing out
The more you judge yourself, the more you'll start stressing out
Stress kills sex
Be supportive and help each other become better
The more you judge the other on their performance, the more they'll start stressing out
The more you judge yourself, the more you'll start stressing out
Stress kills sex
Be supportive and help each other become better
You both deserve to enjoy sex to the max
If you have a partner that doesn't want you to get sexual extacy
Get yourself one that does
It's not your fault if your partner is lazy & selfish
It is your fault if you don't leave them
A good partner gets turned on by your pleasure
If you have a partner that doesn't want you to get sexual extacy
Get yourself one that does
It's not your fault if your partner is lazy & selfish
It is your fault if you don't leave them
A good partner gets turned on by your pleasure
8) Get rid of the unrealistic standards
Like I mentioned before. The average man has an average penis & only lasts 6-7 minutes
The average woman isn't having 15 squirting orgasms within 5 minutes
Drop the porn standards, you're not performing, you're having sex
Like I mentioned before. The average man has an average penis & only lasts 6-7 minutes
The average woman isn't having 15 squirting orgasms within 5 minutes
Drop the porn standards, you're not performing, you're having sex
9) Sex isn't a race
Build it up properly. You don't have to go 5th gear constantly trying to reach (her) orgasms as soon as possible
In fact the number 1 way to cum too fast as a man is to straight away go all out
It's ok to start slow and then build it up
Build it up properly. You don't have to go 5th gear constantly trying to reach (her) orgasms as soon as possible
In fact the number 1 way to cum too fast as a man is to straight away go all out
It's ok to start slow and then build it up
10) Don't focus too much on the physical act
Men, if you learn how to drop the anxiety &a the race to orgasm mindset, learn to manage your arousal, and do your kegel exercises
There is no reason you can't learn to last 10-15 minutes
Which puts you in the top 10% of men
Men, if you learn how to drop the anxiety &a the race to orgasm mindset, learn to manage your arousal, and do your kegel exercises
There is no reason you can't learn to last 10-15 minutes
Which puts you in the top 10% of men
11) Most importantly remember sex is much more than just physical
Especially for women!
You can make her have wild mind twisting, full body orgasms without even touching her
All through her capturing her imagination (trust me I do this for a living)
Especially for women!
You can make her have wild mind twisting, full body orgasms without even touching her
All through her capturing her imagination (trust me I do this for a living)
Thus concludes part 1 of the mega thread on sexuality
I'll re-upload part 2 once I reach 12.5k followers
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I'll re-upload part 2 once I reach 12.5k followers
If you want the bigger & better version of this thread, get my book here: https://gumroad.com/l/datingking
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