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About Brats and Brat Tamers: Part Two
(inspired by this thread by @rendezvouswme) https://twitter.com/rendezvouswme/status/1310907768287633409
(inspired by this thread by @rendezvouswme) https://twitter.com/rendezvouswme/status/1310907768287633409
Brats are submissives at heart. They WANT to submit. They CRAVE dominance the way every other submissive does. They just go about it in their own unique ways.
We're so used to the classic D/s relationship where the sub presents their submission to their dom and surrenders everything to them. Obedience is the name of the game, and that's just not a game Brats play.
Brats enjoy acting up and pushing all the buttons in an attempt to rile up their doms. But they're not doing this bcs they're a bad submissive, oh no. They're doing this because they want their doms to assert their dominance over them.
Ask any Brat how they feel when they act up. It's most probably gonna be a fun mixture of excitement, exhilaration, and fear. It's the way you felt when you did your very first prank call as a kid. And that feeling is just ADDICTING for Brats.
But more importantly, Brats don't necessarily want to get away with it. They're not acting up for the sake of acting up. What they're looking for is to be caught red-handed and to get 'punished'.
Punishment vs. Funishment
Funishment is mock punishment, where the sub asks for or desires to be âpunishedâ for some perceived wrong doing and in receiving the âpunishment,â the sub's need for play/attention/desire is fulfilled. It is a game between the dom and the sub.
Funishment is mock punishment, where the sub asks for or desires to be âpunishedâ for some perceived wrong doing and in receiving the âpunishment,â the sub's need for play/attention/desire is fulfilled. It is a game between the dom and the sub.
Punishment is not fun. Punishment is not desired. Punishment is meant to correct behavior or to resolve a conflict. (we will discuss punishments some other day bcs that's a whole entire new topic)
(from https://thekinkfactory.com/blogs/lifestyle-articles/123448195-punishment-vs-funishment)
(from https://thekinkfactory.com/blogs/lifestyle-articles/123448195-punishment-vs-funishment)
Now that we've established a basic understanding of 'funishments', I think it's immediately obvious that this is exactly the outcome Brats are looking for when they act up and disobey and all that.
It's also important to understand that beneath everything, a Brat loves their dom. It's never a Brat's intention to hurt the dom or make them feel bad.
It's not rare for Brats to get moments of insecurities where they feel immense guilt for being a Brat and feel like they're being too much for their doms. If this happens, it's the dom's job to reassure them that they enjoy the playful dynamic as much as the Brat does.
In the end, all BDSM relationships are different. It all comes down to knowing your partner, trusting them, and having open and honest communication. I just hope this thread might help you understand more about the Brat/Tamer dynamic.
In Part 3 we willl explore the dynamic from the Brat Tamer's perspective so please look forward to it !!
