Dear @krisfade,
I think you’re a pretty cool guy and I know my kids love your radio show.
I come from South Africa where women constantly face GBV at an alarming rate with little to no support, help or even recognition of the seriousness of it all.
As a man, I am learning daily

That my masculinity is often questioned by society’s expectations or the way I was raised in a male dominated world. As men however, it is up to us to call out other men, and more importantly *listen* to women as we will never understand what they go through, sometimes on a

Daily basis. I totally get that you were making a joke, and I get that it’s your fiancée in the photo, but the issue at hand is that your photo scratches the surface of a much bigger issue women tackle regularly - online harassment. Simply put, I think your joke was distasteful.

Hindsight is 20/20 vision, and perhaps a simple, “I’m sorry, I didn’t realise it was insensitive” response would’ve made it a lot better and encouraged more awareness around online harassment towards women. But instead you constantly tried to push why you were right, and

@SarahJBahar & @shelo9 were wrong. I know you think asking for a coffee, a call or whatever was your way of ‘talking about it’, but that’s like a man who’s been beating his wife, asking her to meet up to talk about it. There’s zero trust in you.

As a man to a man, I think this could still be rectified, and I humbly ask that you reconsider your standpoint on how these women called out your joke. Please understand, you and I will never experience or truly know what women go through with constant online harassment.
Peace