One thing I have come to see is that kids that have no love shown to them while growing up

Tend to be maladjusted adults.

Esp people who are overly controlling, they don't know how to love without conditions.

Because they weren't raised to do so.

So when they happen to like someone they try to always control everything.

Because letting go and loving someone without any precondition is like giving up their power

And it scares them.

My brother was saying something the other day.

No one loves Osi like I do.

And it hit me

We were raised with love

My mum will always say, osikhena share with him

Osikhena make sure when you guys are playing. He also gets to play..

Those little things formed how I relate to other people.

I always look out for you no matter what.

I had to start guarding my circle when I realised people take advantage and feel they are using you cos you are kind.

But

They are doing themselves, because deep down they are broken

Broken by the lack of love while they were growing up..

So they are constantly trying to survive rather than love people and enjoy life genuinely

So of you study them you will see that its crazy things that binds them to other people.

Gossip
Spite
Hate
Selfishness
Vengeance

Cos thats all they know

That is what attracts them to other people

I was an only kid for like 2 years. Before my brother came and being the first kid and boy I was spoilt beyond reason by my folks

I saw my lil brother as competition and I hated sharing my toys.

My mum still makes fun if me and I thought she was lying

Then she sent a picture

I had a tricycle that had streamers on the handle bars.

Loved that bike.

We took a pic with my lil brother and I was boiling inside that he was on my bike

If u insult my head thunder will fire you

My mum said she had to make sure I learnt to share.

Its why till today I don't attach importance to material things. If you want it

You can have it.

Alot of people dont even know they are self destructing, because they can't love and won't let people love them

Its never to late to learn how to love, and by love i dont mean BF/GF

I mean growing proper friendships where you actually care for people

Stop allowing the only thing that binds you to another person be your dirty secrets

And always remember.

Hurt people, hurt people

We all are now raising our own kids. Dont make the mistake of not raising your kids to share and to love without inhibitions.

You can break the cycle

You just have to be intentional about it.